also with in the first day or so she decided to change his name from what we talked about... I feel such like a sperm donor. I kno thats horrible but honestly its how i feel

Oh.....
I just replied in the single father's area to your post. What I didn't know there was that....you left her. That does better explain why she is lashing out this way....regardless of the why it wasn't working out, she's still hurt and trying to make sure you are hurt also.
Anyway, had to add that here since it wasn't mentioned in the other thread. That's still a guys input though but I would imagine that you'll get some responses from some of the ladies here also.....