Please bear w/me. My 1st post and I'm having a hormonal fit, again. I'll try to keep this in a Cliff notes version....
I'm 12 weeks along. Daddy and I were together for almost 2 years. In fact, it would have been our anniversary today. He broke up w/me a week before I found out about the Peanut. I'm at home alone, again. He's out living the good life with his friends, or with the girl he's been dating for about a month, but claims not to be.
What makes it so hard, is that I love him. Yes, he's a total ***. I know this, I know I can do better and so on. It still doesn't make it any easier and I just don't know what to do. My hormones have me all over the map and I can't stop feeling lonely, rejected and alone. I used to be such a strong, confident person and lately I can't seem to pull myself out of it.
I guess I'm just needing some words of comfort that I'm not a mental person! :O)

First of all, I am sorry you are having to go through that. It does get easier. I had my wife cheat on me, married 5 yrs...I still love who she used to be. Feel free to talk to me if you need to. Tonight must be hard...try to get through it and it will all be ok.

First off ...Welcome to the both of you.

Actually it doesnt get easier...YOU get tougher....hard to understand...but it's true.

Having lived through multiple instances of my wife being unfaithful and many other things I dont really want to get into now....I can STILL say that I love the person she "used to" be. I still have an older picture of her in my wallet...as the mother of my children,...and the "wife of my youth".

Hang in there, scream, rant, cry, talk..whatever you need to do...you can do it here.

Once again...Welcome.

welcome to sfv...i can say i kinda know where you sit no two situations are the same but im due in feb and alone.At 1st i thought i wanted him back but as time passes i have realised im much more better without him than i was with him...you will be fine there is alot of help out there and if you have a supportive family that makes it even better.Stay strong and dont let your heart be troubled easier said than done but trust me you and your little peanut dont need him or the stress...wish you the best and keep strong

I just wanted to say thank you for all the kind words. It amazes me how much people who don't know me personally, can be more supportive than those who do. So again, thank you so much

stljeepgirl...

sounds like a challenging time for you..I think we have all felt like that at one point or another, and perhaps we will go through it again...(hopefully not)

It really takes time to heal from relationships. Some require more time than others all depending on the relationship one experienced with the other person.

For me, I kept myself busy, forcing myself to take up hobbies that I never tried before. It helped me to focus my thoughts and energy on other things, until I was ready to heal through it piece by piece. With time we see things differently, acceptance comes to play and then so does forgiveness and hopefully healing from it would be the ultimate goal.
So no your not mental, your just going through a difficult time right now and as my mother always told me, "it too shall pass".

Forget all that garbage and just know that you are fine, and know that you will once be that same person again....well sorta...you will have a little bundle of joy to call yours and only yours. As for the *** as you called him, let it go. Just let him go. I have found that I let my ex poison my mind and soul for far too long. She was horrible for me and did nothing but drag me down. I have since cleansed myself of her....very hard thing to do, just ask the members here....and things are looking up. A little lonely as the holidays approach, but that is what friends and family are for. You now face a new priority in your life and that is your little "peanut" and regardless the love that you thought you felt up to this point, nothing will compare to the love you both give and receive to that little one.

I know it's hard and I know it's stressful, but sometimes to move ahead we must fall behind. I can attest that I still love my ex wife and my sons mother both very much and I probably will until the day I die. Thing is, neither were right for me and I now know that. Time to just pick up the pieces and call it a day. I wish there was another alternative as that seems cruel and harsh, but that is the only way to move on. Accept what is gone and allow the pain to subside. You will be much stronger when alls said and done with.

-J

I can really relate to what you're going through. I'm a little less pregnant than you (12 weeks-ish at this point, but it is January now) but the same kind of thing happened to me, though the breakup was really my fault. But I know what it's like to love the father of your child beyond all reason. I wish to god I could have my child's father back; not because I'm pregnant but simply because I love him. Nobody has ever come close to meaning what he means to me. And I know how it feels when the man you love ditches you and moves on to someone else like nothing. After a 2-year relationship it must hurt like **** right now. If you're like me you cry yourself to sleep every night (when you can sleep at all that is) and just feel down about everything. I don't know you beyond the blog you posted, but when I read your blog I felt your pain, girl. I wish I had some good advise for you like most of the responses do, but the truth is, I don't. I don't know when this is supposed to get better. But I wanted you to know that no matter how alone you feel, there are those of us out there who know how painful it is. Believe me; I'm there right now. Stay strong and just remember that before long you won't be alone: you'll have a wonderful baby. I don't know if this will help you, but I've found that naming the baby (even when you don't know the ***) makes the child seem more real- and kind of makes you feel less alone. Talk to your baby. It's funny, but this little baby is the best support I have right now.