Hi, I'm Jess and I'm 30 weeks preg with my first. I'm so excited about being a mom even though the dad isn't around anymore. I was just wondering if anyone else has had this "problem":
When I'm out shopping or at work or whatever, random people come up to me and put their hands on my stomach and talk to my belly! They mostly tend to be older women and I know they don't mean any harm or anything like that, but it can be so irritating! How do I say "hands off" without being rude?
Another thing...a lot of my friends don't talk to me anymore...they address my belly instead. I'm glad they're excited about the baby, but I can't help but feel like I'm losing my identity. It's like people only see a pregnant woman.
Someone please tell me this happened to them and how they coped!

im almost 34 weeks, If they ask simply say no, ive had people say oh people must come up and touch your belly and I say well no becasue i dont let them. I also have read that you can always do the same back to them after and they get over the shock they may think twice the next time.

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I also have read that you can always do the same back to them after and they get over the shock they may think twice the next time.

*LOL* Now that's an image!

I'm suprised that I haven't had the problem. A friend of mine with put her hands on my belly and say hello to the baby, but then she talks to me. My problems is more the strangers. They always notice my belly if they ever notice me.

I know I'm not much help here. *lol* But I actually think the idea of putting your hands on their belly and talking to their kidneys or intestines would be quite amusing. ;o)

people just have no boundaries

As far as losing your identity... get used to it. I have not been me in 7 years. I am now known as Simone's mommy or Jada's mommy.

I never had problems with people touching my stomach. People I knew did but I never was offended. It is not like they are putting a curse on my baby or anything. And they can't give me or my baby a disease thorugh my clothes. So as long as they are not doing it in a offensive way my stance is, who cares? I actually enjoy the fact that someone thinks my prgnancy is a greta as I do.

Just my personal opinion.

Welcome to the board Nolans Mommy. Glad to have you.

I like it too. I am in awe of what my body is doing right now, so when people ask me about it, or touch my belly, it makes me feel good! But I do get irritated when people ask me when Im due and thaen ask me if Im having twins... It doesnt matter your size everyone has something to say. Some cant believe Im due in 8 wks b/c they think Im so small and others think Im some gigantic house! LOL some people just dont know when to keep their mouth shut or hands off!

SIGH***Like PITA said you loose your idenity even b4 you bundle of joy comes into this world. I had my brith name until I got pregnate. Then for some odd reason it was changed to pregnate lady, pregnate mommy. When my son was born I was given the name mommy. When he started talking I was mommy then ma now it's mom or Shane's mom. I have just given up recailming my birth name! LOL Oh wait what was that name!? I think it began w/a "B" And that is the life of being a mommy!

As for the belly touching. I am the type of person that feels uncomfy w/any kinda touch unless I want it. The one thing I hated and now people are staring to do it now is they poke and jab to get my baby to move. Even thou you can't see my belly move they still do it anyways. I usualy say would you like me to poke your child and your belly 10x over to make them move! Answer is well of couse not! Then don't poke my child or belly! Usually that works and they stop when it's put in that prospective.

SPIRIT