hi everyone just wanted some help and advice from u guys we'll i am currently 20 weeks pregnant expecting my 2nd child the babys father hi everyone just wanted some help and advice from u guys we'll i am currently 20 weeks pregnant expecting my 2nd child the babys father is not involved! im just trying to stay strong and not get depressed but it's getting harder for me i can't stop thinking about my ex even though he basically abandoned me and the baby i haven't heard from him in almost 2 months and i tried calling him but he doesn't pick up his phone. i know i should move on with my life but it's hard and i find myself thinking about him alot and wishing that he would call so he could be in the babys life i guess i find it hard to belive that after 3 yrs he could just do this and move on with his life he might come around but most likely he won't he already has 2 kids which makes me more confused. i wonder why he is involved in their lives but not in ours? can anyone give me some advice so i can forget him. i just really need someone to talk to.

Well dear I was with my son's father for three years as well, the day he found out I was pregant not only did he ask me to have an abortion but also left me. I found out two days later all three years he cheated on me. During my pregancy I took him back a couple of times but he just wanted sex. It took me to have my son and for him not to even come see him for me to realize that I and my son deserves better.

I am here for you to talk to and more than willing to let you cry, yell and laugh with. Just remember if he isn't man enough to take responablilty for his actions do you really want your child growing up like that. It will pass and soon you will be enjoying those smiles and laughs of the little one. How old is your other child?

Jolene

I can completely understand what you're going through. My baby's father also has two other kids that are number one with him, but he's not around for me and most likely won't be around for this baby. I get so upset, depressed and mad all at once, when I think about it. I know how lonely it can be. I do anything and everything to distract myself, from playing games online to doing crafts for the baby. I'm trying my hardest not to let myself get too distanced from my friends either, although it's hard cause I'm the first one pregnant. I also try to turn my sad feelings into angry ones (easier said then done). He is the jerk that had time to get me pregnant, but not time to be there for me. He is also the one who will miss out on the first smile, the first step, the first everything. Heck, even the birth (still not sure I'm gonna call him when I go into labor, that might wait til after I get home). This isn't the way I want it to be at all. I really want him around. I give him every opportunity to be there. . . I tell him when every appt is, but he's never there. As sad as it is I know I'm still in love with him, but I'm doing my best to move on if for nothing else then for my son to be. I just have to force myself to concentrate on me, even though I don't usually want to.

I hope things get better for you. Remember, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Hello Jayna,
I read your 'positive post'. I am really glad for you. Also, it seems like a good thing, if he's more interested in you than vice versa, doesn't it.
Daniela