Well, I'm 22 years y/o, 5 months pregnant, alone,broke, and the father is not picture...I just recently found out that my baby has a heart defect that may not allow him to live full term...and given no options really other than terminate the pregnancy and I could wait around to see what happens.....When i recieved the news I was devastated and cried my heart out...I even thought about suicide....At the beginning of my pregnancy I never accepted the fact that I was pregnancy and I just began to bond with my unborn child close to mid 4th month......then for doctor's to tell me this news crushed me....I thought about terminating thinking no one wants a sick baby and no one wants a baby to suffer.....but then I thought who am I to make that choice the baby has a strong heart beat and is very active on every ultrasound who am I to say that this won't be a miracle baby.....I am not GOD and shouldn't be making godly decisions.....So I have made up my mind and opted to keep my child and at least try and have faith I owe him that much....I am all his little heart has....I am his mother...I've never been a mother before but I feel like I have a responsibilty to this child as well as to GOD and to do what GOD asks of me....GOD sent me dream one night of a happy healthy child smiling and that told me he has plans for me....I know it's not going to be easy but I know GOD believes I have the strength to handle this and he believes I will make it through......I would really like for you all to keep me and my baby in your prayers....It would mean so much.....Even though I don't any of you I believe Christ sent me to this website for a reason....and I believe there is so much love for one another on this site....I Love you all and I will keep you in my prayers.....my email is latoyaa90@hotmail.com if anyone wants to talk....Thank You

My cousin was born 40 years ago with Downs Syndrome and holes in 3 of the 4 chambers in her heart. Technology was horrible 40 years ago considering, but she is living a wonderful life today in an assisted living apartment complex.

My prayers and tears go out to you. You are being very brave and very strong. Just remember that you are asking the right Person for help. Your prayers will go so much further than any medical equipment.

Welcome to the site. There are so many of us here to listen and be here for you.

Thank You so much for your loving words.....I am so scared and I feel so alone.....But I continue to pray and it makes me feel a whole lot stronger....I will also add you and your sister to my prayers

I'm sorry you and your cousin will be in my prayers as well as your family

I can't believe that I missed this yesterday. My heart breaks for the decisions you have already and will have to make. We will keep you and your baby in our prayers. Miracles do happen everyday and doctors aren't always right. Take care of yourself and keep the stress levels as low as you possibly can. I know that won't be easy, but it will give your baby even more of a fighting chance. You said he, so I'm going to assume it is a boy. He is already very strong and will get stronger. Keep us updated and we will pray for you both! Also, welcome to the site! There are tons of really fantastic people here!

Prayers for you and yours, may you be provided strength and health.

Thank you so much to Don and Ty's Mom you don't realize how even the smallest phrase you say to me makes a huge impact on my life...This is my very first pregnancy and I'm trying so hard to remain strong in the faith of the Lord but I keep wondering am I being selfish......I will keep you all in my prayers as well as your familys'......Well I got a call from the doctor's office and they want to do a sonogram tomorrow at 8am .....I'm hoping they give me some kind of hope of a chance because last week they gave me none......Thanks again you guys

Good morning,

I'm not so good....I recieved terrible news...I had an 8am appointment for the results and they(doctors) found the baby has what they call a lethal heart defect and will die.......The baby's heart at this point is very swollen and takes up most of the available space in his little chest where the lungs are supposed to grow....She told me this baby has absolutely no chance of survival...no surgery option no options at all other than terminate the pregnancy......I don't know what to feel...I prayed to GOD on this situation time and time again and I asked him to give me some kind of hope any little thing.....I am just in so much pain right now

I'm so sorry to hear that. God may have had a purpose for this baby that didn't involve it actually living on this earth. Maybe you and others needed to learn something that only this baby w/this defect could teach. God may want you to teach others about the enormity of this happening. There is a reason why this baby was given to you. You have to find the purpose. I wish there was something I could say to make this hurt less, but I know that there isn't. I will continue to keep you and your baby in my thoughts and prayers. I know that pain and heartbreak you are going through. Just out of curiousity, have you talked to a pediatric cardiologist? That is their specialty and may know something your ob/gyn isn't aware of. It is another avenue to research before you concede to what you have been told. Get a second and/or third opinion.

Oh, how my heart goes out to you. Doctors aren't always right, but what are the risks on your health. I'll be praying for you and I hope that you have someone there with you to lean on.

Yes, I have gotten 4 different opinions .....first my ob/gyn,then I was sent to genetic counselor where they also had a specialist on-site...then I was sent to fetal echocardiologist and a pediatric cardiologist and they all come back with the same devasting results....I have to hear it over and over again and it kills me over and over again.....The affects on my health are ...I am a pretty small person I am only 5'4 and before pregnancy I only weighed around 117lbs I am only 5 months pregnant and I am already 133lbs which was gained in like a 3 week period and my balance is terrible... I can barely walk around the house and I live in an upstairs apt and I have to call my mom or a friend to even get down the stairs and go with me to appointments...I fell a couple of times luckily not harm was done....My body is growing rapidly and doctor's say I may need to go on bedrest by sixth month if the weight keeps progressing the way it is and my body may not be able to handle it...

Bless your heart and your baby's. What are the options they are giving you? I wish I had some kind of advice for you. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are going through. I feel like no matter what I say, it won't be enough to give you the comfort you need. I will continue to keep you and your baby in my prayers. God bless you both!

If you continue the pregnancy, are there any options to move out of your apartment and into a family members? I did bed rest by myself on a 3rd floor from the time I was 5 months along. IT IS NOT A GOOD OPTION FOR ANYONE!!! I strongly suggest you not continue living on your own.

My prayers are with you and your family.

Words just seem so inadequate. I am so sorry. Wishing you all the strength as you deal with this devastating news Take care