I'm really glad I found a place for single people, it seems like all the other pregnancy boards out there are centered around couples and that's not always how the real world works.

Anyways, here's my story...I'm 22 and currently 8 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I've been in a relationship for the past 4 1/2 years, we've been having problems on and off for practicly the whole time. We've broken up 3 times, he cheated, I forgave him, we graduated college, moved into a house, and tried to live happily ever after...only problem, was I've never really been happy. I gave up my friends and family and moved to another state to be with him. Back in June, I started going home and hanging out with my friends back home, ran into a guy from hs and well things fell back into place. I just hung out with him for months and never did anything, but eventually after all the fights with the bf, I gave in thinking our relationship was done. We slept together a few times...it was fun. I found what I was missing, I loved going out with his friends and not having to worry about the loneliness and jealousy that i had with my bf...Well a month later, I find out I'm pregnant....I knew right away it was the other guys and not my bfs.I told my bf out of impulse one night thinking things would be fine and I could move out and be with this other guy...My bf shocked me and said he'd forgive me if I get an abortion. I've been debating it for over a month now. The other guy is completely freaked out about being a dad, says he's not ready, we'll never be together, and that an abortion would be better. Me on the other hand, loves kids, I want kids so bad, I have for a long time. I'm a pediatric nurse and just center my life around them. I had an abortion three years ago, and still regret it. But I'm terrified and excited about being pregnant at the same time. Part of me wants to abort and get back with my bf and wait and do things the right way, but it would be so much work. However, having a baby with a guy who lack responsibility isn't the best either, especially since I have to explain to everyone how I'm pregnant and not with my bf...It's just a horrible situation. I did it to myself, I knew I was fertile at the time it happened and well I just played with fire....Now I'm running out of time.....If I have this baby, I have to move back home, move back in with my parents, get a job, and try to get over a long relationship...alone..my bf really isn't giving me an option anymore, he's hurt and done with the lies, which I understand...I'm terrified to be alone. How do you do it? The other guy said he'd try and figure what he's going to do with his life and be there for the kid when it's born but I won't believe it until I see it. A part of me hopes he's come to his senses and be there for ME for the pregnancy but that won't happen.

It just really feels good to tell someone this...any advice would be great. I have my first OB appt. scheduled next week along with an abortion and I still haven't decided which one I'm going to...

You have a lot on your plate right now. You may not want to hear this but in all likelyhood neither guy will stick by you. I think that you have to face that you will be raising this child alone. The question is do you want to do this alone? Take both guys out of the equation and ask yourself what do I truly want. Am I willing, ready and able to do this alone? And, there is also the option of adoption. Whatever you chosose make sure it is the decision that is best for you. Good Luck and welcome to SPV.

I think you're looking after the wrong people. You need to look after you, especially now. In another topic, someone mentioned being strong enough to stand on your own two feet. It is completely possible to this on your own, so if it's what you want, do it. Then work on your relationships. Figure out what regrets you can live with, and which you can't. Do your best to be strong. I'm sorry I'm not more sympathetic, but I'm not against abortion either. I was pregnant on my own too, and my little one is three months. Anything my ex has missed out on has been his loss, not mine. I'd wish you luck, but luck's got nothing to do with it! So best wishes!

Sadly to having a abortion to mend your BF's feelings is not a very good reason to have one. Take it the other way, what if he had a child when he fooled around? He would not be required to have a abortion because its not his call, but he would ask it of you? You need to think about yourself and that of your unborn child before thinking of what he wants.