hey everyone, I am also new here. Today I am 37 weeks and 5 dayz pregnant. I'm 22 and about to be a single mother. The father of my unborn son had left before I had found out that I was pregnant to visit his family in another state then shorty after that, his visa had expired and is now back in Mexico. He had called a few times maybe once a month then it became once every 2 months and the last time he called was when i was almost 20 weeks pregnant. Anyway I've kinda gotten to the point where I realized I'm on my own with this and I'm having such a hard time coping. I feel so alone and i don't have much support at all. I find myself feeling like i need a man by my side, but what am i to do? I don't think anyone would want to start a relationshp with me at this time in my life, and is it even in my best interest? I'm just not used to being so alone and toward the end of my pregnancy now I'm so emotional i don't know what to do with myself. Any advice? And what about dating in the future? gosh i just don't feel like bringing people in and out of my sons life, but i think I'm scared to be alone.

First, Welcome.

Although I wish you didnt need to be here under these circumstances, I'm glad you found us.

Please know that if you're looking for a place where people know how you feel, you found it.

Be patient, hang around, check out the different subjects that have already been tackled...there's hundreds, if not thousands.

Ask ANY question you like and we'll do our best ...somehow to help.

Once again, Welcome.

hey mommy2b... I too went through pregnancy alone. And honestly, I think I was better off going through it alone than have my son's father with me. He was unsupportive and way too indifferent about me going through my pregnancy. I'd imagine, that if i were still with him while I was pregnant, I would be living h.e.l.l. on earth. LOL

Just be patient... a few more weeks now and you'll have a wonderful baby. Once the baby's out, you'll forget all about the father. You can start dating again once you feel ready to do so, but dont let any man in your baby's life too soon. Just take it one step at a time. You'll see how things work out for good anyway.

Feel free to browse around the forums... you'll see there's a lot of us here who have gone through the same situation you are going through now. And, believe me, there are always happy endings to it.

Thank you all so much for the warm welcome and wonderful support and advice. My emotions are still a bit extreme but things are looking up for the future. I think another reason I've been so upset was because everything I was trying to achieve to be ready for the baby was backfiring in my face and it was really discouraging.For instance I had been on this waiting list for low rent housing and got turned down because I didnt have 3 leased-landlord references, or 3 credit references over a period of 1 year! So that was a big slam in the face,and at that time I was living with my sister's friend in her attic, 45 min from my job that I have to be there at 4am. I Don't have a lot friends anymore, they slowly stopped calling or whatever, plus my mom isnt very reliable because she drinks heavily and often until she's super intoxicated and doesnt make much sense. But anyway, so everything has been crazy and there have been a lot of changes in my life and I being single with it all is a very scary thing for me. But thankfully now I think I'm growing stronger and things might just be coming together. I'm now renting from my best friend and her boyfriend only 10- 15 min from work and 20 from parents. But here I feel more comfortable and cozy. I pretty much have everything ready for my son's arrival. I'm due now in 4 dayz so I will be having him within 2 weeks for sure and I can't wait! Oh, also I just got a letter in the mail from hra (housing and redevelopment authority)saying my name is nearing the top of the list for a section 8 voucher to help with renting cost(which you only pay 30% of your income, which is nice) , so thats uplifting, I have an appointment to meet with them coming up and then I'll be able to find my own apartment that I can afford. Yay! I never have been a super independant person so finally making things happen for myself feels great and gives me more confidence in raising Westin, by the way that's what his name is going to be. But again I wanted to thank you and everyone here. I have been reading the forums and they also gave me a lot of confidence. I mean a lot show how ppl are getting through tough times and growing to be strong and independant individuals which I think, is an important learned quality when being a single parent. Anywayz g2g and will be back, God bless!

Good to hear that things seem to fall into place for you. I believe God takes care of His children. I, too, went through my pregnancy realizing that things to work out for good. My mom bought a condo unit three years ago and it was finished just at the time the baby was to arrive so I was able to live in the unit without rent expense.

Anyway, hope everything works out for you. Please dont forget to post pictures of Westin! We look forward to his baby pics here!

hey, still around, or did you give birth yet?

can't wait to hear all about Westin..