I am new here and glad I found this place b/c I feel soooo alone.
I am in a pretty messy situation, unfortunately. My husband left me 1 year ago and we tried for 5 years to get pregnant, going through infertility treatments with no luck. Our divorce is no quite final at this point but we are getting along.
I recently found out (on my birthday) that I am pregnant from my 3 month boyfriend who had broken up with me a few weeks before. He didnt talk to mefor a few weeks then started to turn around but then this past weekend, cancelled plans with me and said he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. For one thing, I am so hurt to be rejected, again. Also, the thought of doing this alone is so scary but I dont want to give the baby up since I had so much trouble in the past and I am in my late 30's. I have to keep this hidden from the exhusband until the divorce is final, which adds to the stress.
I am not sure what to do about the babydaddy...try to get support or get him out for good by having him sign rights over? I am worried he may come back in a few years and try to take the baby away...I dont trust him...should I get him out for good despite the struggle?

I'm in my mid 30's and am also raising my first child (11 month old Hannah) alone. I waited a long time to have a baby because I wanted to ensure my career was well under way and that I had a stable marriage. Unfortunatly, my husband of 4 years left me out of the blue...no reason..no counseling...nothing. We too had problems conceiving which I now think was a problem with him...not me.

With your exboyfriend...I'd be careful. If you don't want him in your baby's life, you should be careful about going after child support. If you do want him in the baby's life that's another story. As for signing over parental rights he may use that as leverage or to play a cat and mouse game with you. For me, the idea of being connected to someone (for life) who is a coward and was cruel to me doesn't sit well. Mine is paying child support and does see our daughter...although he's probably only exercising visitation to get at me.

Being in your 30's and having a child is a blessing. You have life experience and are likely ready for the responsibility of children. You probably also have some type of stable job as well. You can do this...It won't be as you visioned but it will eventually be OK.

You've come to the right place. You will find support, encouragement and even humor here. Welcome!