I'm a pretty tough cookie over-all, but I'm a little worried about how I am going to get by in the later months of this. I had to turn down a great paying job when I found out I was pregnany because I coudln't afford to lose the insurance - and my old job can only give me 20 hours a week now instead of the old 45 because they'd had notice that I planned to leave for some time. That barely pays my rent, much less anything else. "Daddy" has lots of money, but refuses to help, and has gone as far as trying to sabotage my well-being (I've seriously considered taking him to court for defamation).
I have always had allergies, bt my pregnancy has sent them out of control. I spent the last 2 days in bed because I was in such rough shape from them (thank God I didn't miss any work!) I am not supposed to be vaccuming or doing anything like that, but there's nobody else to do it. I have always been a bit of a recluse and don't have a single friend here to help me out. It's not like I can afford to pay somebody to come in to do it! My dogs are also a problem - there's going to be a point in time where it's going to be very hard for me to walk them several times a day (like when the sidewalks are iced over in Decemeber!). I considered hiring a neighbor kid to walk them, but even grown men have lost control of them when they're not paying attention, so I worry about that liability (they love poeple, just not always other dogs).
My family wants me to move home, but it's just not feasible - I'd have to pay out the rest of my lease because there's an overabundance of housing here and nobody to sublet it, how would I come up with first months rent and a deposit when I am barely making it as is? I'd lose my insurance, because it's a local HMO and going on COBRA would do me no good since I'd be ot of the area. I'd have to find a job - and though it may be illegal, nobody but Kmart is going to hire a pregnant woman! the list goes on and on...
and my car would never make the trip home either - I say a prayer just going to the grocery store!
I don't know.. anybody else been here? what did you do?

Wow, sounds like your having some problems. How far a long are you? Maybe someone could take the dogs for awhile. If I were you I would look into public assistance and getting child support. Some agancies will help pay the rent and give you help with buying food. This may be a good idea until after the babies born and you can go back to work full time. I know what you mean about no one hiring a pregnant person. I basicly sucked my tummy in and found some cloths that hide my pregnancy as much as possible so that I could get a job. It kind of worked, I got a job 40 hours a week working second shift at a store, while I went to school during the day. Good Luck

I just had the 20 wk ultrasound on 10/6... I can't get child support until after he/she arrives and even the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families requires that the child be born first. I don't know where else to look.. And it makes me so MAD, since I've never had to ask for help in my life, and I wouldn't now if Mr. Wonderful didn't feel the need to be something-I-can't-say-in-a-public-forum. But I am guessing you can guess which choice words I had in mind!

Can you walk the dogs by holding their leashes out the car window? lol.
Sounds like a tough situation.
I've been in worse and made it through somehow, but looking back sometimes I wonder how I'm still alive.
When I think about bringing my car out of the state I generally start thinking uhaul truck with a car trailer attached, lol. Hey..it beats having the thing blow up on the way there. If things get worse maybe you can convince that family of yours to foot the bill on a uhaul...at least you'd still have a functioning car when you got there.

Wish I had the answers.
Good luck and take care of that precious little one :-) .