Hi, I'm really new to this site. This is my first time. I was in a relationship for almost 2-1/2 years and we had a rocky relationship toward the middle and end. It was either good or bad. We went through alot together and I have made my mistakes as well as him. I moved back home with my parents in the beginning of November and the day before Thanksgiving I found out I was pregnant. Even though I was moved out we have been trying to work it out. I would go visit and hang out with him. But it seems like he only wants me around when it is his choice. It is a really bad situation right now because he does not want me to have my baby. I'm not for abortion and he knew this. He has a total different outlook than I do. I know our situation is not good and I'm really trying to work on winning him back. I know I did some bad things but I want him so much back in my life and I want it all to be better before the baby. I keep pushing to see him and make things right and now he is into going out with his single buddies and going on his normal life. He also keeps me a secret, because he has his Mom and friends not liking me.He does not ask anything about the pregnancy and I'm trying to deal with it hoping he will come around. He was a great guy and I lost him. Now he is completely different and just does not care. I don't know what to do anymore and I need HELP!!!! I stress over this everyday hoping he will forgive me or at least work on this and he will not budge. One day he is nice to me and the next he says he wish he never met me.

Honey whatever you did it couldn't have been all that bad!!!! I had a similar situation with my ex husband: we seperated and then I found out I was pregnant and once I FINALLY convinced him that there was NO way that i was having an abortion we tried to work it out but he wasn't interested in the pregnancy and the relationship only got worse from there. You are gong through a lot right now with the hormones and the pregnancy-if he doesn't want to be involved now he isn't going to magically change his mind as your stomache expands...lean on your own family for support and let him figure it out on his own. If he wants to be involved he will be if not-you can't force him to. You don't need his crap while you are in this alredy fragile emotional state. Incidentally-I'm 16 weeks pregnant with my second and I'm doing it pretty much alone. I know how you feel. If you need someone to talk to pm me anytime it seems like I'm always on this site--it helps me stay sane (hee hee or at least pretty darn close!!!!!!!!!!!)

Hi, ladies, and welcome to SFV! This is a great site w/tons of great people and advice. I have to agree that he isn't going to magically change his mind if he doesn't want to be involved. I hate to say it, but you have to prepare yourself for the fact that there is a good possibility that you will be raising the baby alone. I know that it is hard to think that the father doesn't want anything to do w/the baby, but it happens. It did to me. It wasn't easy to accept even though I wanted nothing more to do w/him by the time I realized I was in fact pregnant. Hang in there and lean on your support system (parents, family, friends, and SFV!). Hope to see you both around!

What is it about guys freaking out when they find out the person they supposedly loved is pregnant?We didnt do this all by ourselves but somehow we get looked at like we did. We didnt do this to trap them or to make them love us more. Most of the time it is an accident. I just feel we should be proud of ourselves. We pay the bills on our tiny salaries, we take care of our children, and we do it all basically without breaking a sweat. Sometimes we definitly have melt downs but what we do, wears us down. Our children are wonderful, Gifts from God, but we are only human. If you end up going through this pregancy on your it will be difficult and sometimes you may get very lonely but just think of the out come. You have a beautiful baby, at that is all that matters. If your ex doesnt want to be around that is fine but he will be missing out on a miracle.

Thank you so much for your advice. I do know what is best for me. I haven't heard from him since the beginning of the week and I'm staying strong now. He can contact me when he wants to talk. I'm letting him be and I'm also doing it for myself. I felt I was going to go crazy the last time we spoke. I was there Monday and things were fine then Tuesday he starts the game and throws everything in my face. I don't have time for this anymore. I know I will hit my sad point and want to call him but I hope I stay strong. I've been keeping busy and getting advice has really helped. I know I won't be alone because I have a great family support. It is just too bad he doesn't see or ask about the baby. He will be the one to suffer. I've been feeling really good and I was 15 weeks yesterdy. My next appointment is 2/1. I can't wait and I know when she/he comes I won't even think about him. I can't wait to look into the eyes. It truly is a miracle for me!! I'm truly happy with my baby. Hope to talk soon!!

Hi ereyna, I'm new too. I was in a similar situation. My daughter's father left me when I was 5 weeks pregnant after a year long relationship. He has not been heard from since. I told him I would not abort and he said goodbye. In December 2004 my little girl turned 4 and is the most precious angel. Being a single mom is not easy. Be proud of your decision. Be proud of yourself and know that he could NEVER do what you are doing. Weaker ***? I think not!