I am a 23 year old single mom of a 2 year old little girl. VERY long story short, we were together for a few months and found out I was pregnant. About a month later I left him because I found out he had been hiding drug use from me and I didnt want to raise a child in that environment. While I was pregnant we maintained contact, I let him know how things were going and he cleaned up and got off drugs. I took him back when Hope was a month old and we were together for a year and a half before things went downhill badly. I left him for the second time and since then he has only been in her life when it was convenient for him. Shortly before Thanksgiving he finally started taking her for visitations every other weekend. Nothing is set up through the courts other than child support. He has no court order for visitation. I told him that he could see her whenever he wanted to, but could only have her overnight if he had a roof over her head. (for the longest time he was staying with different friends every night or sleeping in his car) At the end of Jan she was at his apt for the weekend and him and his gf got into a major fight. I'm not sure how much of it my daughter saw, he says his friend took her down to the park when him and his gf started argueing. I do know that his gf threatened him while he was holding Hope and she punched a hole in the wall of his apt. Since then Hope has been waking up with nightmares every night. Hope has not been back to her dad's apt since that weekend. I told him that if I wanted her subjected to that kind of argueing then him and I never would have split up, and he agrees with me on that. He has made no attempts to come over and visit her or to pick her up and take her out for a visit. I told him that he could do this, that I just didnt feel that she needed to stay in his apt with him and his gf (whom is an ex crack addict, her own 3 year old has to eat from a feeding tube and has other medical issues because of her mother's drug habit). basically I just want someone else's opinion. Am I doing the right thing? Hope still talks to her dad on the phone as much as possible when I can reach him. I have been more giving with him than I think alot of single mom's would be. Most of the time I was the one dropping her off and picking her up from his apt for his visitation with her. I wasnt even the one who asked for child support from him, for a brief period Hope and I were on assistance getting back on our feet after I left him. At the moment he's trying to play a guilt trip on me saying that they are going to put in him jail for a probation violation because he is out of work and unable to pay his child support which is why he is on probation in the first place. anyways, I am done rambling on...any opinions would be appreciated greatly. thanks

Jeanine