Hey Peeps:

I am a 29 yr. old single mom of 3 boys. I recently ended a relationship (3 months ago) and have since felt so lonely! He lived w/ us for about 2 months, yet I felt terrible about him being there b/c we were not married! He was a sweet person and great to my kids, but b/c I put him out, he chose to stop dating me! In fact, he started dating someone else soon after! I missed him, but now I don't want him back, I just miss being in a relationship!

Anywhoo, I looked around @ the people around me one day and I am the only single mother I know! My friends/ family are either married w/ children or co-habitating w/ children! That made me feel even lonelier! Everyone has someone and therefore they really can't sympathize w/ me and my struggle! Are there any "real single parents" out there? I mean where ALL the responsibility is on you......daycare, meals, baths, washing, etc...?

Will the real single parents please stand up?

Hey Lisa! Welcome tothe "single parent nuthouse".

Look around...90 plus percent of the members on this forum are single parents...or use to be. There a lot of knowledge,empathy, sympathy and most of all moral support that you just tapped into. I hope you find what you're looking for here...even if its just a place to vent.

Good luck.

Hi Lisa! Welcome to the forum!

Paul worded it just right, you will find a lot of people who you can relate to and who can relate to you. I'm a single mom and live with my mother right now. I'm very lucky to have her support and help. However I hope to be out on my own sometime in the near future. But even living with my mom, I'm the one who plans the meals, does the laundry, baths the little one, all that good stuff. Plus my son has never met his father so once I am living on my own, I know I'll have my mom if I need support, but she's it.

I'll stop my rambling now, just wanted to welcome you and let you know you're not alone and there are a lot of "real" single parents on here.

Amy aka Gabriel's Mom

OH YEAH!! I get very little time on here because I'm just too plain busy. I have no real friends in the real world. I spend all my time taking care of the kids, house and working to barely get by. I thought it would be easier living with someone to help pay bills but it did not work out.
No support, except here and I don't utilize it like I should but I am seriously embarassed at my stupid mistakes. There's no one to keep me from screwing up. I have very little family around and a lot of arms length aquaintences.

I'm trying to find a church but again I keep to myself, been burned so much in life. I'm just hoping and praying God will get me through and He always does, I just get in the way.
I do have a bf at this time, he does not live with me however and doesn't contribute and honestly, I wish I were single. He tries to monopolize my time and lately is not around when my kids are. He isn't getting all the attention.
I made the mistake of not putting my son first and I'm paying for it. I need to be on my own and focusing on my kids and that's the best you can do. Don't try to find someone to fill a void, it only ends in a mess. But hopefully the right one will come along but take it slow and be sure you can spend your life with them.

Not sure if I'm in the same boat but I feel your struggles.

Hope this helps and I don't sound like an idiot.

Kim

I'll stand up and take a bow...

But "school" does help with some of my social issues.

But as for an understanding to my single parent issues...

That would be here... and that is why it is a board and not a chat room. You can stop in once a month and not be out of the loop, so to speak.

But from where Im at, a great relationship take energy, and time and i just dont have that with out sacrificing from my kids, school, work, home, etc. thus i feel my kids did not ask to be in this situation so I would not take it from them, then that leave taking it from the other areas, and I cant, so...

Yes, I understand.

You are not alone. I am a single parent to a 5 and 7 year old. For years my life consisted of working full time, going to school at night, and taking care of the kids.

I've never really had time for a social life and having a significant other is damn near impossible. Most of the men I've met tend to get upset when they discover how limited my time for them is (I could only squeeze them in on the weekends my kids were with their father or briefly before class). I miss the comforts of having a significant other but can live without the drama.

Hey Lisa,

I'm a widowed mom of two, so I'm flying completely solo. I have found a terrific church, and I am as involved as I can be with my kids school. Linking up with other moms for support is always a good idea. Alot of married moms feel like they are by themselves most of the time anyway.

I'm more interested in being content with myself and my family than trying to find someone else to fill a void. I'm not ruling it out, it's just not my focus.

Hang in there.

Hey there I know how you feel. If your still around-I got to this posta bit late)I feel the same sometimes.
Many of my friends have relayionships with either their kids dad or a new guy-but they are not happy ones. I constantly hear about their problems and fighting and am glad I am not in their shoes.
It would be great to be with someone I am compatible with-someone who has kids too but if they didn't would be good role models, but I have come to realize that it probobly won't happen anytime soon. Besides, I spent my years from age 15-30 raising kids and in bad relationships and am actually glad not to deal with that drama right now!

HI I'm new to this site but I am a real single parent!

New here as well and i'm definitely a "real" single parent. Everything is my responsibility and it's so tiring. LOL

I am a real single parent. I have been doing this on my own for about 4 years now but before that I was a parent of 3 not just the 2 I have. i don't want a relationship anymore. I thought I had to be with someone to be whole. Your right though people tend to get cranky when you only have a limited amount of time because you have children. My views on that are now simple if they can't understand that there needs ( childrens ) come first then they aren't really going to be there anyways. Things will get better there is always someone for everyone. Right now mines on theother side of the world he just doesn't know it yet.

I am a single mom... My boy is just a year old... his "father" hit the road and FLED the state when i told him i was pregnant... haven't heard from him in almost 18 months now.... no child support whatsoever... I work full time and go to college full time... I am truely a single mom.... It kinda upsets me when people say they are single moms but daddy is around and takes the kids on weekends and pays his support.... I AM A TRUE SINGLE MOMMY TOO!!!!!!!!!!!! THE BEST JOB IN THE WORLD

Hey Girl,
I'm a single mom and I have a 3month old daughter and I'm alone with daughter 24/7 and me and her father split months ago. I have my lonely times missing that companionship in my life. Sometime I feel like the walls are caving in on me because I don't see the outside very much except shopping and that's about it. I'm changing the daipers, making the bottles and playtime and her still getting her days and night mmixed up. YES! I understand completely were your coming from, I have all the responsibiltiy each and everyone day I wake up and plus juggling school online.

I look at my daughter each and everyday and it's beautiful being a mom and I wouldn't have it no other way. Anyone that comes into your life hopefully will understand tat the needs of your children come first and you will find that right person soon but he will come when you lest expect it, and he will be that good person to you and your children. Seriously you don't need that other person to make you whole, just having your babies is a joy.

I can relate.
I too am a single mom. It IS difficult not having someone to share anything, everything or nothing with.
My concern is that my son is now aware that he does not have a daddy. I spent a lot of time thinking of how I would handle his questions but had no answer when the time came.
He is a wonderful son and what I do to avoid the difficulty of getting a GOOD sitter is to chose places where he will be welcome, and when I must leave him and go out, thankfully, my mother steps in.
Next month, I plan to sign him up for swimming and soccer where he will be exposed to male companions on a wider scale. My support group (which is ultimately his) is for the most part, female.