This week was my first week back to work. My son is three months old. I knew this would be hard... but it seems almost impossible. I am miserable every second that I am at work. I worry I will resent my clients. My job demands alot of compassion ( I work in a Domestic Violence Shelter) and I don't know that I have enough to spare. At times I am angry that there is no one else to financialy help so I can stay home. However this is the reality I face... I must work. Ugh. I just want to take care of and play with my boy!!!!! I know he is well cared for. His grandmother is providing childcare, yet I am still finding this to be a terrible transition. Did anyone else have a hard time?

I had a hard time when I left my son in my moms care at the age of 10months old. Funny I've been working ever since and I still worry and resent the fact that I can't be w/him everyday and hes is 8rys old! He has been going to daycare since he was two but I know where you're coming from.

I'm due again for my second in December and I know already I'm only going to have about four or five months to stay at home w/my new baby. It will be with grandma but still I wish I could be there for everything.

It does get easier as time goes by but there are days still that I want nothing more than to be at home w/my son.

I don't resent not having the kids fathers there to provid income just resentful that I don't have the same chance to stay out longer like the women w/partner. I don't need the fathers just need the time w/my kids. Ok slight ramble.

But just wanted to let you know that I do know how you feel.

SPIRIT

I understand what you are going through. It was really tough for me too. I felt like was missing out on everything. I always wanted to be their to raise my kids ubtil they started school. But for single parents like us we dont have that option. My son is also taken care of by his grandmother and I guess we should just thank god that they are there and our kids dont have to be in day care. Even though we cant be there I guess grandmothers are the second best thing to us. They will at least take care of him better than a daycare would.

I know it doesnt seem like it but it will get easier. You come to the understanding that even though you arent there you are working and providing for your child the best you can. I wish you luck and hope things get easier for you and just know that we are always here to listen.

Thanks for the encouragement. Things are getting a little better. It is still so hard to leave my little guy every day and head off for work. But the big smile when I return certainly takes the edge off.

Wow, I am scared for when I have to leave my daughter, she won't be here for about another 4 weeks, but I will only get to take 4-6 weeks off work. That is all I can afford. It is unfair that her father can just walk away from this- he took a leave of absence from work (paid) this month because his life is too "stressful"...I am letting him off way too easily!

I'm sorry to hear you only get such a short time off. It is exhausting to go back to work! But we do what we must for our little ones. Best of luck with your coming arrival

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Originally posted by graciesmom19:
[qb] Wow, I am scared for when I have to leave my daughter, she won't be here for about another 4 weeks, but I will only get to take 4-6 weeks off work. That is all I can afford. It is unfair that her father can just walk away from this- he took a leave of absence from work (paid) this month because his life is too "stressful"...I am letting him off way too easily! [/qb]