Hi:

Well i havent been back for awhile, but here i am and i personally am still unemployed, have been since september. my benefits run out at the end of March and i dont know what im going to do seeing as that fool in the White House voted last year not to extend umemployment as "jobs are out there" I would like to know where they are , because i cant find them.

I have no insurance, no job, little money, no friends, support or anything and im not sure what im going to do. Is anyone else in this situation. Im in Michigan and umemployment is high here. Had to crawl recently to the state to get my daughter insured but ironically they wont insure me. I have horrible insomnia and physical ailments and they wont consider what i need to be awhole person.

Its so stupid. Not asking for money or food assistance, just medical so i can get better and i dont think this is asking for alot do you? Im tired and am getting used to being a bum, but i worry constantly which is why im up at 2:31 am. I never sleep.

Im a bit pissed that he wont help people like me that you have to beg for medical insurance, and even then you can get help for yourself, its a vicious cycle of insanity. Im trying to help myself but there are no jobs here, but even if there were i have to fix myself up first but i cant afford it. Had to drop counseling for me and my kid because it cost to much and my money id o have may have to last for months, which isnt much trust me. Going to a movie seems like a real extravegence and thats depressing.

i got let go from my job as i was falling into this deep depression and i was told "you not happy, go do it somewhere else" after 4 years of employment. My daughters father has fantasies about her, i was in a dead end job at age 35, a secretary thing, which had no work for me for 8 hours a day, people at my office literally werent speaking to me save for work business, i had no friends, no one to talk to or vent to and alot of bills and no money and 4 payday loan advances out at one time which was sucking my whole checks up, and he tells me"your not happy", the moron. No i wasnt i admit for some reason, i had alot on my plate to worry about all the time.

Sorry but thats all true. I m just not sure how i can ever get better if no one will help me to do it, so f frustrating.

Okay, I have a few questions....since you are up.

How old are you?
Are you able to work a full time job? If not then why and what are your restrictions?
Do you have a car?
How far away can you work from your residence?
Do you consider yourself to be a good employee?

Hi,

Dont know if your still there, but i am. Im 35 and would prefer to work part time as i am in college, but yes i could work a full time job if the right position came up. I do have a car and would like to stay within 15 miles of my home if possible. I am a good employee, all of my jobs give me positive references including the last. Do you know where the jobs are

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Originally posted by THINKER:
[qb] Okay, I have a few questions....since you are up.

How old are you?
Are you able to work a full time job? If not then why and what are your restrictions?
Do you have a car?
How far away can you work from your residence?
Do you consider yourself to be a good employee? [/qb]

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Originally posted by sickandtiredmom:
[qb] Hi:

my benefits run out at the end of March and i dont know what im going to do seeing as that fool in the White House voted last year not to extend umemployment as "jobs are out there" I would like to know where they are , because i cant find them.

I know this is going to sound harsh, but honest. It is not the "Fools" job to keep you on unemployment. That is our money you are eating on.

i dont think this is asking for alot do you? Im tired and am getting used to being a bum, but i worry constantly which is why im up at 2:31 am. I never sleep.

STOP getting used to being a bum and you won't have as much to worry about because YOU will be taking care of it. You don't work your not tired. Get a job be tired at the end of the day and you will sleep.

My daughters father has sexual fantasies about her, i was in a dead end job at age 35, a secretary thing[/qb]

I am not sure about the father fantasies but you need to address them and keep her away from him.
If you are in a dead end job at 35 than get up and do something about it. Stop blaming everyone else for your stuff and take responsibility for you and your daughter. Go to the library and get this book if you want to make something for yourself and daughter. "48 days to the work you love" by Dan Miller. It is not everyone elses fault for where you are and not our job to support you financially. We have enough trouble supporting ourselves. Get the book and do something about it. I myself will support you emotionally for making an effort to take care of yourself, but not to be a bum.
May God be with you, I will say some prayers for you.

I am also in MI. If I remember correctly, there isn't a whole lot in Okemos. I would think you are going to have to look further than 15 miles from home. No there is not an over aboundance of jobs out there, but there are jobs. Personally if I was unemployeed I would not be picky, I take the 1st job I got offered. Once I had a job and started getting my bills back under control, then I would start looking for a better job or job with a better future. For 5 yrs I drove 45 miles one way everyday becuase that was what I had to do. I hated it but that was what was necessary to secure a better future for my son and I.

First of all, how old is your daughter? Thinker is right, keep her AWAY from her father!

Second, he's also right about blaming anyone for you not being able to find a job. You sound bitter and like you blame everyone all around you for things not seeming to work out.

My money is spent before I get my paycheck also! Some days I don't know if I'm going to make it to work because I don't have enough gas in my car and can't afford to put any in. Most of us are just trying to stay afloat ourselves.

It sounds like you do not have any friends because you are very negative about everything. I think I would spend the money to see a doctor, (your therapist should know one) that can prescribe something for your depression for you, especially if you cannot continue therapy sessions, maybe you need medicine. I did. And it helps me.

Are you living on your own? Do you have any family that can help you out?

What are you going to school for? Do you have any qualifications for working? You have to keep looking, and now is the time, especially if your benefits are almost over. If you can't find what you really want, you might have to settle, for now. And keep your eyes open for openings elsewhere down the road.

You have to be strong, especially for your daughter. Good luck to you.

get a newspaper route, gas station, mcdonalds, there has to be somehting.
You can do it if you try.

I beg your pardon whoever you are. I have never said that you or anyone else was responsible for me or my child. You and the world have not supported, worked, fed, changed the diapers of and sweated and humiliated me to give my child a decent life and chance to simpley be. I dont know where your goal is, but i didnt say unemployment was my right, my right actually is to be able to have a chance to find employment in my area and not have to accept lame Mcdonald jobs on 5.25 an hour that wont and dont realistically help anyone but teenagersnot adults.

(I have spent the last 2 years in school for your arrogant information and am pursing a parallegal degree when i graduate with my psychology degree in May so i am neither lazy or greedy nor do i expect anyone to support us. I support us. I may have needed help along the way to have support us, but im also the women who sold my even my blood to buy diatpers for my daughter. I have faught and scratched and scrimped to do for us and i am not ashamed to have needed help because we all do at some point and you have some nerve trying to make it sound like im some person who is sayin to socieyt wha, wha take care of me.

I have been feeling terrible and lonely and like frankly putting a gun in my mouth for having nothing, no friends and no support. So yes a bit self pitying i suppose, no doubt long term depression has done this to me and being worn out has too.

I take care of us. While her sick father who i stopped her from seeing, does nothing but gets fired and evicted from apartment and job after job, i dont expect or want applause, just wanted a hug when i felt like nothing an like crying not you precious tax money that by the way happens to be mine as well as i am a tax payer and dont mind providing for social programs to help other people if i can. i would help anyone if i could but i am trying to help myself.

So thanks for writing. Your snotting uncaring words have motivated me. You insult me and attempt to demean me for being tired, exhauseted and lonely and i suppose i asked for it by putting my life in the street, but ive had alot on my plate and no one to express it to an no one tohelp me with it for your informationa nd that take s a real toll on a person.

Maybe your unkind words were what i needed. I have been working and getting the job done since i was 16 years old, including paying my own rent at 16 so i am not entirely without strength.

Thanks for your lack of understanding.

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Originally posted by tomany2count:
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Originally posted by sickandtiredmom:
[qb] Hi:

my benefits run out at the end of March and i dont know what im going to do seeing as that fool in the White House voted last year not to extend umemployment as "jobs are out there" I would like to know where they are , because i cant find them.

I know this is going to sound harsh, but honest. It is not the "Fools" job to keep you on unemployment. That is our money you are eating on.

i dont think this is asking for alot do you? Im tired and am getting used to being a bum, but i worry constantly which is why im up at 2:31 am. I never sleep.

STOP getting used to being a bum and you won't have as much to worry about because YOU will be taking care of it. You don't work your not tired. Get a job be tired at the end of the day and you will sleep.

My daughters father has sexual fantasies about her, i was in a dead end job at age 35, a secretary thing[/qb]

I am not sure about the father fantasies but you need to address them and keep her away from him.
If you are in a dead end job at 35 than get up and do something about it. Stop blaming everyone else for your stuff and take responsibility for you and your daughter. Go to the library and get this book if you want to make something for yourself and daughter. "48 days to the work you love" by Dan Miller. It is not everyone elses fault for where you are and not our job to support you financially. We have enough trouble supporting ourselves. Get the book and do something about it. I myself will support you emotionally for making an effort to take care of yourself, but not to be a bum.
May God be with you, I will say some prayers for you. [/qb]

Okay, we all here understand your feelings, heck, we've all felt them at one time or another, but there is no reason for attacking everyone here. The people here are only trying to give you advice, remember, you asked for it. I hope that you take the advise, and seek help for your anger. We all only wish you the best of luck.


Brandi

Wrong, i do not blame the world or my being unemployed. You and he are dead wrong, i know i was unhappy at my job. I have been in school for two years, two long years. And i am graduating in May and i am pusrsuing a paralegal degree in May. My daughter doesnt see this guy anymore for your edification. But having to deal with someone with those thoughts was extremely stressufl particulary when his parents always take his side on everything.

As I remarked to thinker, i have gotten help over the years and i have worked and worked and supported my child myself all my life from 18 and up and i dont blame the world for my choices, i choose to be a mother, and yes i have tried to make friends , over and over and over , but im shy and tired and exhausted and just wanted someone to talk to. I am also a taxpayer you see and dont expect unemployment as a right, but i do expect not to fund a war for nothing and have funds cut from social programs at home for nothing either.

Maybe i am bitter and lonely and just tired. But thanks for the wake up call from both of you. I only wanted to have friends and not feel alone. I am shy and suffer from anxiety and i cant afford to see counselors when my lights have to be on, and that is a realistic choice, not a made up choice i make, and other people have to make, its not a joke or thing i make up.

Where do people like you think that is? If i could do it, i would help me. But as i said to you friedn and im sayin gto you, i have sweated, worked, cried and got the job done to care for my daughter.

And yes maybe i am bitter but i have tried to make friends and its obvious i dont have any here, none at all i cant fit in eve online so thanks i will try other things for myself

and before i go, dont go thinking that she cant take hearing the truth and honesty bout herself, as first you dont know me, second you dont ask too many questions to get to know me, and 3 i have and can admit to being a bit bitter but also to being tired and just this side of putting a gun in my mouth frankly from anxiety, and depression for your information.

I am wrong about alot of things and god knows have made a hell of alot of mistakes, and dont know how to correct all of them but though if i vented her someone would understand and tell me how to to it, but perhaps i was wrong, i am not weak i have done alot wrong , but also some right in my life.

Its not wrong to want friends or a simple hug at times when your down, it isnt. But i want to let both of you know, that i appreciate the unkind harsh words, some true, some not, but i will find my own way out, im felt bad and depressed for not workin since ive worked since 16.

Im in the wrong place. You are right i will find my own plac3e and this forjm is not it. So in a way i should be grateful.. Me and my bitterness dont belong here....thanks for the frankness i will invest in myself ,i will try, its really hard on your own but poeple like you two dont seem to care on that level.


Im finished.

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Originally posted by pookerpics:
[qb] First of all, how old is your daughter? Thinker is right, keep her AWAY from her father!

Second, he's also right about blaming anyone for you not being able to find a job. You sound bitter and like you blame everyone all around you for things not seeming to work out.

My money is spent before I get my paycheck also! Some days I don't know if I'm going to make it to work because I don't have enough gas in my car and can't afford to put any in. Most of us are just trying to stay afloat ourselves.

It sounds like you do not have any friends because you are very negative about everything. I think I would spend the money to see a doctor, (your therapist should know one) that can prescribe something for your depression for you, especially if you cannot continue therapy sessions, maybe you need medicine. I did. And it helps me.

Are you living on your own? Do you have any family that can help you out?

What are you going to school for? Do you have any qualifications for working? You have to keep looking, and now is the time, especially if your benefits are almost over. If you can't find what you really want, you might have to settle, for now. And keep your eyes open for openings elsewhere down the road.

You have to be strong, especially for your daughter. Good luck to you. [/qb]

I wasnt attacking anyone merely responding to their unkind feelings to me

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Originally posted by twinsmom99:
[qb] Okay, we all here understand your feelings, heck, we've all felt them at one time or another, but there is no reason for attacking everyone here. The people here are only trying to give you advice, remember, you asked for it. I hope that you take the advise, and seek help for your anger. We all only wish you the best of luck.


Brandi [/qb]

Okay, I've read and reread the postings here. I didn't see the unkind feelings you were talking about. You asked how to pull yourself up and you got the answer. I know it wasn't what you wanted to hear. I have been in almost the same position, I am currently looking for work that will support me and my twins, but you know that is hard. I can only offer the solution that is helping us, go to a staffing office. You will get many temporary jobs, but at least there will be a paycheck, and you will have to travel out of your safety zone, but it will pay the bills. As for the hard feelings, I am sorry that you feel abused. I have only been on this site for a few months, but the people I have "talked" to, and even those who I have only read, no one here would ever wish any harm. This is a site of wonderful people and they will make you smile, if you give them a chance.

:huggies: again, I wish you the best of luck.

Well Sybil let's start with what you asked for.

(((((hugs)))))

Hang in there. The darkness will pass but it will you be that helps it along. No more talk about guns please. There is a little girl there who needs a mommy, so enough.

You have much anger. That is normal. Now it's time to turn that anger around and use for you not against you. If you have the energy to respond to some honest people offering honest opinions with such power, let's turn that energy to solving some of these problems.

So you all know, Thinker is a wise and experienced parent who is not one to sugar coat things. By the mere fact she responded, you should know her intentions are good. Sometimes tough love is needed to motivate people who are down on their luck. And Thinker I thought was gentle. In fact she only posted questions and made no judgements.

So how can we help you Sybil? Only with motivation and support. But are you willing to accept those and shift your focus? You have a big hill to climb here but it starts with only one step. So what's that step going to be? Research. You're on the net with us now. Try google. Try "employment opportunities in my area". There's a start. One thing for sure, you must control your anger and demeanor to get any job.

I hope you can find peace. You will need that to be successful. And the support is here for you. You may not like what you read sometimes but know this. Only those who care are responding.

Good luck Sybil. Time to take the bull by the horns. Set some goals for this week and follow through. Small goals that will be easy to attain. That will go along way to helping you with confidence and self-esteem. The n the world can be yours.

Sybil,
Ok,Ok, Jaydsdad makes it look easy, but I really s*** at this, but here goes,
((((((huuuugggg)))))!!!!

Ok, whew, that's over with. Now, wake up Sybil!! Noone here is bashing you, we're with you. Unfortunately, all we have for you is advice from experiences. We're all in different boats, some big, some dinghys with holes and nothing but a bucket. I'm in the dingy too, and I can't seem to fill the bucket enough sometimes, cause there are times that I feel too tired to keep doing it. The only thing that keeps me going is my daughter. She needs me and looks up to me and cherishes me. I will do everything in my power to keep it that way if I have to work my butt off. (That will take alot of work too).
Anyway, honestly, I think you know you need something, whether it be just someone to talk to, or medicine for depression, whatever. I know that there are mental health clinics near me that work on a sliding scale in regards to whatever money you have (or do not have). I can tell you that at one time I was seeing someone there (who I liked) and I only had to pay $5.00 every time I saw her. She was a psycho therapist. They also had psychiatrists and doctors in the building in the cases where people had to be dipensed medication. I think it was run by the state, that's why it was so inexpensive. My mother went there for alot of years also. I would think they would have something like that in all states.
What about your family? Is there anyone there that might be able to help you out?
Jaydsdads right about internet job hunting too. Why don't you try an agency? Maybe they can get your foot in the door somewhere.
And please stop talking about putting the gun to your head. Do you want your little girl to end up with her father? Or become a ward of the state? She would suffer the consequences of what you talk about doing.
Good luck to you.

Sybil,
I will not appologise for my post, but I am sorry that you feel this way. There are a lot of great people here who do care about you and want to see you do well. Heck, I would love to see ALL the people on this site and then some be able to live the American Dream and strive in life, personal and financial. This is why I do free financial advising through my church. It's not that I don't care it's because I do that makes me do it.
One thing that I learned when I went through the training for the counseling is that really good friends sometimes hurt your feelings to try and better you. A good friend will tell you the truth and sometimes that hurts.
Nobody here, including me, intended to hurt your feelings and make you angry. How you take our advice is up to you. I do hope you stick around and make a good go of it. You have the power to make it, like JD said we just need to channel it in the right direction.
I will say a few extra prayers for you and your daughter. You can do this! :huggies: :hugme: :huggies: