I had an interesting moment, to say the least, today at work. I work in childcare, am about 7 mos pregnat. There's a few children who are particulary unruly & today this one particular girl would not listen. It got to the point where we had to chase her around the room (it should never get to that point, I believe, but it did today). Her mom came & got her around 4:30. Now, mind you..sometimes the girl'll give hugs & I feel if she's been decent, she gets one from me. Today wasn't like that-at all. She came over to get a hug & I told her that I'd see her tomorrow. Her mom hollers from across the room,'Don't you think that's rude? She was trying to give you a hug!' Maybe it was, I ended up giving her one anyways, although I have different thoughts about it. What do you guys think? Granted, also, the mother does nothing but roll her eyes when told that her girl wasn't being a good friend that day, she blows it off & does nothing about it. I was also thinking of 'fessing up to my boss about it because I don't know if the mother'll talk to my boss first.

i would have told that mom a few things and then a few more. although no matter how bad my kids have been i always hug them but then a gain they are my kids not kids i am watching. if i was watching kids on a regular basis and this was the case i would totaly have blown up at the mom. then again im not a people person lol

I have a small daycare and sometimes the kids dont behave like I wish. Alot of the time the parents don't care which is especially annoying. And very often I dont agree with some of their parental choices. But you cant go around blowing up at the parents every time they make a choice you dont agree with. One thing you have to accept when working with children is that the parents have the right to deal with THEIR children how they see fit (with the exception of abuse) If it a certan behavior becomes a magor repeated problem there should be a meeting or phone confrence about it not to be done in front of the child. Any other behaviors I encounter during the day are for me to deal with appropriatley. I would never deny one of my kids a hug no matter how upset I am with their behavior they need to know that your disapointed with their behavior but you still care for them. Withholding Hugs are should not to be used as a punishment method. I think it would be a good idea to go to your boss and say you feel you made a poor choice in not hugging her and it wont happen again(if thats how you feel) I think your boss would appreciate the fact that you recognise your mistake and that your not making excuses and wont repeat it. It is also my opinion that you should talk to the little girl and tell her your sorry for not being a good friend to her that you will always like a hug from her. Maybe talk about her behavior the day before and see if you can get her to learn from you and apologise herself. After you do that don't beat yourself up about it we all have done things we later regret its what we do to make it right that really counts.
I hope I didnt come off too harsh.

Looking a second time I see that you DID hug her! So when it came down to it you did the right thing