I want/ need to go back to work full time and need to put my daughter in daycare. The problem is she crys and whines all the time. I just scared that she will cry all day there. I have two other children and worked full time when they were babies. They started daycare when they were about 7 months old. So they was use to going and did'nt have any problems. But with my youngest, I have been out of work for a year just went back work part time. But my daughter will soon be 2 1/2 and she can go to school free where I live. I really need to go back to work full time because we need the money. Does anyone have any advice.

You know what, I find my children are angelic at school/daycare/babysitters.... miserable for me, often, but not for others. Maybe you can think of this positively as a way for her to shine through and a way for you to take a break from the crying and whining. I will NOT sit here and say you do anything to support whining, but I think sometimes it becomes sort of second hand and when we see they can go without doing it we realize maybe we aren't putting our foot down or stepping over it. I think it could be a welcome break for you ANd to get back to work, bring in some cash and get back out into the grown-up world again!

It is hard when we feel our children are upset or sad or will be sad.... from experience it is worse when you realize they are happy for others. Although, always better to have them behaving well in public and saving the testing for home. Street Angels/Home Devils, that's much better than the opposite!

She will not cry all day at daycare or school. In my teaching experience I saw it first hand with many children from babies to 7 & 8 yr olds... they stopped once Mom/Dad was out of view or on rare occasions, within minutes of that. And I know my children have all gone through spurts of not wanting to separate from me upon going into daycare/school... teachers always reported them being fine all day long, happy, and enjoyable.

I say "just do it!"

I agree with Sue, Just do it. She'll be ok i'm sure.My daughter never left my sight till she went to preschool. I worked nights to avoid that.The first day of preschool came and I cried more than she did. Plus she was an absolute angel in school. It doesn't hurt to try, give it a shot before you start working and see what happens. Good Luck

Thanks for the advice, I will give it a try

Jenelle just started going to daycare this past year right after she had turned 4. I thought she would do terribly, but actually she didn't. She cried when I dropped her off but I would look through the glass, or even call right after I left, and she was fine. Of course she's thrown a few fits, and a couple of times she's cried for more than a few minutes. If she's sick she does whine all day, but that's when mommy has to come get her. I actually had to quit my job because of all the days I missed because EVERY time either one of my kids had a cough, a sniffle, anything - they called me and I had to leave work. I don't have anyone that could/would pick them up for me.

Last week they sent Jenelle home with pink-eye. Well, come to find out a boy had scratched her eye and THAT is why it was pink! DUH! And the teacher said it was "oozing green" after she woke up from nap-time. Well, guess what, it was cold in her eye it wasn't oozing anything. So sometimes they overreact. If it's possible not to work, I wouldn't. Or maybe get a nights job and hire a babysitter to come and watch them sleep basically... someone that you trust obviously. I know it's hard.. I just lost my job this week and I'm glad I have a little money to live off of (taxes) or I would be FREAKING out right now. Good luck..

When mine were little, I tried several day cares and my kids came home frustrated and cranky. Then we tried a Montessori preschool. It was wonderful! One of their mantras is "education for peace," and the peaceful demeanor of the teacher rubbed off on the kids. Not only that, they learned a lot! The one I went to wasn't any more pricey than the day cares. Maybe that would be a good option for you if there are any in your area.

For what it's worth!
Carole