Hi all, I joined a while ago, but only posted once or twice.

I have been trying to deal with these holidays and I guess it is getting to me more then I wanted to admit.

I feel overwhelmed. Things I have always enjoyed doing, I am pushing myself to do and without much success.

I have to get through this for my children. I have been praying that God would give me the focus and energy.

Just wondering if anyone else is going through this?

Anyone else going through this? Huh? We all are Tricia. You're definitely not alone. In my case it's a bit different but no less stressful. I'm not worried about enough gifts for my girl as I am about enough gas after the gifts to get to her. I've already begged the bank for a break on the car payment this month and the landlord has great patience and will wait for the balance of this months rent in two weeks.

But this weekend the tree went up and my girl went home smiling so God has helped me out already.

Hang tough Tricia and don't sweat the big things and the little things will take care of themselves. Christmas isn't about money. It's about hugs and kisses and children smiling and friends caring. You can do it.

Thanks so much for your reply. I know in my heart the true meaning of the season. I can just kick myself when I get like this.

Thanks for reminding me what I already knew, but was too into my pity party to notice. I am not alone.

Tricia~ You are definitely not alone.

Christmas is a time to be with family. A time when we are reminded of being a single parent and missing having a complete family.

I promised myself - Nope - not feeling sad during the holidays, not getting depressed. I'm sure I even mentioned how I am content with it being just my children and I.

Yeah Right ~ Although I am content with having my children, I am also falling into the feelings of sadness for Christmas Time..

Hugs and Prayers~

Welcome back to the forum! Stick around for awhile if you have time. Everyone here is wonderful! It helps to have a group of friends that understands what we are going through!

Tricia
Oh you are so not alone in the feeling overwhelmed with the season.
It's a stressful time for most of us. I am a few years out of my marriage so the alone part is okay. But it's all of it.

My life is not what I had envisioned, but I make the most of what it is.

For myself I know I over extend myself with commitments to do too much and that doesn't make the season go any smoother.
I try to spend as much possible time doing all the extra holiday things with my son too. On top of our regular routines and events. Factor in visiting family here and there. Finding appropriate gifts, it can all be overwhelming

I know others do struggle in there own ways with their own issues, and we have this great place to come and post and get good feedback and support.

Hope to see you around more
Be well


I hope

Thanks for all your replies. It has helped.
I took 2 vacation days to get myself together.

My son will be home from college on Friday and that makes me very happy. My daughter will be thrilled too.

I know this is difficult for them and I want them to know that I am there for them as a whole person and not a broken one.

You wouldn't think that this was my second Holiday season to deal with this, but last year I was in survival mode and wanted to make things as normal as I could for my children. This year the reality of all just hit me like a ton a bricks.

Thanks for listening.

Hello all,
I am just joining today.. I am glad I found a group of people that identify with what I go through... I look forward to giving and receiving support...

I feel so much better today. I am thankful for the support I received yesterday. What a difference.

I prayed a lot and reflected on things and I am able, at least for today, to see things from a different perspective.

I am counting my blessings and including all of you.

I'm sorry...Apparently I have posted a couple of times.. I guess I have to get used to this.. Well tricia, I agree the holidays are very hard. My son and I put up the christmas tree and I just don't have the X-mas spirit but, I am doing it for him.. He really loved putting up the deocrations.. Prayer is good and I do so much of it. We really have to do it for the children..

Huh? I only see two posts M4quise. Whatever are you talking about?

Welcome to SFV. I took care of the extra posts. You can also edit your own posts by clicking on the edit button. Enjoy yourself. :welcome:

M4quise! Welcome to the site!!! Glad to have you as part of our family!

Thank you. I am so glad to be here!!!

Tricia, I'm sure you know this by now...and you just needed confirmation. There are SO MANY of us dealing with the same kinds of things that you are. Those of us with younger children do what we have to, to keep the spirits of our your children alive. We run the the gammet from just not having a good day to dealing with feelings of suicide. So, no...you're not alone. We all have to go through this, deal with this and come out better on the other side.

Unfortunately relating to what your saying , Good luck & God Bless.

- Paul