hi, i've been really down lately and i'm not sure why. yes, i have some issues going on in my life right now but who doesn't, ya know? i'm on the verge of tears almost everyday and all i want to do is sleep. impossible with an adorable 5 yr old. i have no definite reason to be sad or upset but i am. one minute, i'm okay. the next i just want to be left alone. please someone, tell me what i should do. i'm so scared....

all suggestions are greatly appreciated.

I have had those moments too lil mama, but I don't think I was depressed, at least not in the sense that I needed medical help. It was just the whole situation that seemed to have no solution. And then, having the kid around, always, kept me from being able to concentrate on myself and maybe find a solution.
For me it was going for long walks, with the kid in the stroller (he was only 1 year old) that helped. He would be satisfied and I would be able to breathe and think.
Then of course, a babysitter helps as well. That's also when I started leaving him to a nanny for a day a week, even tough it cost a lot of money.
I believe, if I hadn't done that, I would still be there today.

Dew has a point I get depressed but can pull myslef out of it and be ok w/out being medicated. I've had to take meds b4 and it helped. I would just talk to a professional just to see what they say if you are able too.

I get those days when it's just all I want to do is sleep and if I have to deal w/another customer at work I'm going to kill one LOL! Then Ill have a good day or two and I'm able to pull myslef out. Of couse alot of my down days and whacked out days have to do w/being pregnate sometimes. I do have them w/out being pregnate too.

I hope you feel better and can get help. Like Dew said spend some time alone w/you if you can and also just go for a walk w/you and your son and that helps too. I know I just hang out w/my son for a few hours and I can get happy too.

SPIRIT

Either you have PMS, are pregnant, or depressed. The question is how serious is the depression. Has it lasted at least a month. Have there been any major changes in your life lately? Have tried any of the above to make you feel better? Do you feel hopeless? On a scale of 1 - 10 how depressed are you. If you said no to most of these, then it is probably just a minor case of depression. If you feel like a 10 and answer yes, go see your doctor. You don't have to take medication to feel better. You just may need to talk.

Classic signs of depression
1. depressed or sad mood
2,Loss of interest in things you once enjoyed(family,friends,hobbies)
3.change in appetite or weight (either loss or gain)
4.Inability to sleep or sleep to much
5. restlessness and nervousness or slowing of speech and body movements observed by others
6.Constant fatigue or loss of energy
7.Frequent feelings of worthlessness or guilt
8.Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
9.Frequent thoughts of death or suicide
This is out of a pamphlet from the doctor. Hope it helps.Hugs Gail

I get that way sometimes when the stress just gets too much, I'm overtired, just want to crawl into bed and hide for oh, a year or ten. I think sometimes I let it get me, but I always can pull myself back up. I find reorganizing helps me for some reason, like getting a handle on the chaos..... that is my key issue. The more I have to manage the more stressful but as long as I have a handle on the chaotic parts of it I'm ok.

Anyway, I think if you are laying in bed instead of playing with your daughter, or missing appointments, work is suffering, you should then seek some medical help. Try some of the things Dew mentioned... it is hard when you don't have a second to just rest your brain because you can't sort it all out without that. Try and find someway to just get a break, even if it is longer showers while a video is playing, a walk, some long tubs after her bedtime....

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Originally posted by lil mama2004:
[qb] hi, i've been really down lately and i'm not sure why. yes, i have some issues going on in my life right now but who doesn't, ya know?
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Don't underestimate the effect of some issues, something is getting to you. I know that for a while I felt very similar, a 'just deal with it' kind of attitude. Well, sometimes you can't deal with things anymore, they just pile up in your head. If I were you I'd get some recommendations from whoever your doctor is, or scope the online information on what's availible in your area in the way of support groups. Just talking about my daily stuff helps me a alot.

Paul, there is a difference between mental disease and depression. Most people with depression do NOT feel like they are normal. They feel different. They don't know WHAT'S going on with them. There are symptoms that are listed above, and if you have any or alot of the symptoms, and they are affecting your life, chances are you have depression. A doctor can tell you whether you need medication or just therapy. My mother had mental disease. I'm not sure what her diagnoses was exactly, but I know she was on anti-psychotics and other meds on and off all of my knowing her. She thought she had nothing wrong with her. She would say things that were off the wall. Totally irrational. She thought people were out to get her, watching her, and that we (her family) was trying to put her away every time we tried to get her to the doctor to get her back on her meds. When she was off the meds, she thought my dad was leaving her, all the time. He couldn't leave the house without her flipping out and crying for him to please come back. He couldn't talk on the phone, she would always pick up the extension and listen in. She thought we were stealing money from her because she misplaced it. She thought we were giving away all her stuff when she couldn't find something in the house. She'd be up all hours of the night crying out in the dark in the living room. When I'd ask her what was wrong, she would be worried about something so silly. Once she was worried that the church was going to know that they didn't send back their envelopes that were sent to us for a percentage of your salary. She thought they wouldn't let her in the church, or that everyone would know and stare at us when we went to church. When she was like this, there was ABSOLUTELY NO TALKING TO HER. She wouldn't hear anything rational you had to say. That's why she had to be on meds always. She was almost normal when she was on the meds. She didn't want the meds. That was the problem.

Lil mama, you're going through mood swings. Always good to get checked out by a doctor. Could be a low blood sugar thing. Could be that you are in a depression. Always good to get checked.

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Originally posted by Paulandhisgirls:
[qb] I have a question, have you ever lived with someone who has a mental illness?? [/qb]

If you're addressing Pooker, I think she already answered that.

Schizophrenia and Depression are different. I'm sorry you and your ex went through what you went through, and what she still goes through. I don't think you can downplay any person's plea for help or advice when he/she is scared I believe that you are also not a Dr. I'm guessing you'd have mentioned that by now if you were.

Let's support one another and stop making judgements.

i will never make anymore comments on this ever again, so be at peace, you are right, even if someone sayz you arent, you are right.

Ps... I won't responde, this is a forum

Relax fella, take a breath. And through what before?

Paul, clearly you've been through a lot. Your posts just sound very angry and defensive and I don't really see anything that has been posted to cause that. We aren't against you here at all.

Have you sought out any help yourself? You shouldn't feel at fault but I know I do, my kids let me know it most days.... different story, same guilt and blame. It sucks.

(What I wanted to post was, "Lovely, and thank you for your well wishes." but I see you are hurting and need help for yourself more than anything. You can't help your children until you are at peace with yourself.)

OK so you deleted the last one, too, well changed it.


Um, I GIVE!