I am going through a pretty nasty divorce and I(we) have a 2 year old daughter. I have been depressed because my daughter's birthday was on 10-31 and this is the first birthday without us being a family. I still love my husband and wish that everything would work out but there has been both physical and mental abuse in the past. So, I know that a divorce is for the best. I have been depressed for quite some time now and I have also tried to hurt myself. I took a piece of glass to my arm and made 36 marks on my arm. None of them we deep enough to do any type of damaged. But I will have scars for the rest of my life. Please help me get through this rough time.

Hey - what r u doin - think of yr child & the life u have and can give it - dont bumm out �cos no one is goin to loose except u - things r always hard on yr own - but would they have been any better as u were- u did this 4 yr child - don�t let the babe down now when yr over the worse - just concentrate on the love u have between u �cos no one will ever be able 2 take that away frm u - if u do somethin�dumb - which hurtin�yrself is - u won�t b there 4 the real person that needs u and thats yr baby -right !
Come on honey - they get older and it does�nt get easier - but yr baby can communicate with u and can tell u that they love you and that yr the best mommy in the world - even if u think u aint! That makes it all worthwhile!
Love 2 U and yrs
Lizzee G [EMAIL]null[/EMAIL]null

hey girl...i used to deal with my frustrations the same way when i was an early teenager...now i realize that there are other methods of releasing your pain that are alot more effective...the scars will heal over time...and so will your heart...you have a beautiful child who needs you to respect yourself and your body...she will learn to treat herself by observing your self-image...life is so short and its so easy for us to get overwhelmed by the things in our lives...there is a bigger plan for this life and its hard to see it in the midst of lifes toughest trials...look to your friends and family for support...there are people who will listen(me included)...hang in there...things fall into place...in God's timing...God Bless you and your baby...

Camela,

Please go and seek counseling. Depression is a very serious illness & if left untreated could cause you way too much harm. I know from experience that it, if you allow it will take over your life & life is way too short to allow that to happen. If you can't find a way to do this for yourself do it for your daughter. Your daughter and yourself deserve to have you happy, content, stable and positive. Life is all about choices and please don't choose to let this take over or destroy yours or her life. Choose to make a difference, choose to be positive. Everything happens for a reason and you will see in time that you WILL become stronger and happier. You made the right choice if he has been abusive in any way. Know that and know that it takes such a strong person to do this. And you are wrong you are not alone and you do have a family. You and your daughter! It does not in any way take both parents to be a complete & happy family. Please talk to someone, remember all of the good you DO have in your life. You will get past this and become such a stronger person for it. Don't send the wrong messages to your daughter, our world/lives may be difficult, but it is certainly worth living for! Take care of yourself & we are here if you need us. *big hug*

I just wanted to thank everyone for all your words. I am trying to get stronger and I am also in a support group with other women. It helps out alot. So, thank you guys so much for everything.

hello Camela
i hope you want a dads opinion cause your get one. you are making a great start with the support group and your post here good for you. divorce is depessing and it quite possibly will get worse b4 it gets better (i sure hope not)but 2 things
people that abuse hurt the people they say they care about what if that turns to your daughter, you have to look at the history and call it like it is.
second what are you going to teach your daughter, that if things get bad we hurt ourselves
but again you are making a great start with
the support group, make your goals smaller at first so you have some success then work to bigger and it does get better. and if you need help please reach out for it with out hurting yourself. i can point you to some resources in texas if you need. you are good parent going through very tough issues, hang in there