Hello all. I am new to this site and to message boards. Never done them. I am single,again, mother of four. Very depressed and hate taking meds. I have gotten to the point of realizing that I am not going to feel better unless I do take them. I see alot of simaliar symptoms in other peoples messages, that I suffer also. It is comforting that I am not going thru this alone. Anyone know how to deal with an out~of~control, 13~year~old girl(with an attitude) while trying to fix your own life? Any comments are welcome.

Abrilla

I know how you feel. I am recently alone (again) and parenting an "out of control" 12 1/2 year old boy. I do take meds for depression and thank God I do. I don't have any answers for you but I can assure you that you're not alone. Hang in there and try to find joy in the little things.

Thank you. Sometimes it just feels better knowing you are not the only one going thru it.

Hello abrilla & kbmom, I am also suffering from depression. I dont always remember to take my meds, but I can surely feel the difference when I dont take them. I have my good days and bad days, today is a bad day but hopefully tomorrow will be better.
It's hard to take care of yourself and take care of kids at the same time when you are depressed. I know that all too well, I have two sons ages 12 & 13. My 13 year old has a lot of health problems and gets into trouble in school with fighting, and to top it off I have a very stressful job, after dealing with all of this there's not much time left over for me. A lot of times I just feel so tired that I can't even move, and I dont have any motivation. Sorry I can't be of more help, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

Hi ladies, I know exactly how you're feeling. I too suffer from depression. It comes and goes. I'm also dealing with an "out-of-control" 17 year old. I have been dealing with him for 2 years on my own while trying to beat this depression and working 2 jobs, along with taking care of 2 other children. It's hard, very hard. The only advice I can give on handling the teens is to become a beotch. Do not let anything slide and they must give to receive no questions asked. It has taken me two very long years of constant every day fighting with my teen to make him see that I'm not a friend or a peer and that I mean business. If dishes aren't done when it's his turn to do them, then he gets no money for school lunch or to take the bus back home. He's gone a week without eating lunch in school and has walked home various miles. At first I didn't think I had the heart to do it, but then rationalized that he eats a good breakfast and a good dinner and if I'm able to skip lunch somedays and haven't died, then neither will he. In addition, I will not cook for him or anyone else in the household if I don't have any clean pots to cook in when I get home (I don't have much time before I have to go to my 2nd job). PB&J sandwiches will have to do. If trash is not taken out, again, no money. If he asks me for money for the movies, I will use his exact lines, "I'll give it to you later", if he complains, I will explain to him that I am not in a hurry to jump at his request since he doesn't jump at mine. Believe me there have been many times where he's missed movies because I didn't move fast enough to give him the money. I'm not sure if he's maturing or finally catching on, but lately he's been doing things around the house, not much, mind you. But I'm starting to see a difference...maybe. I will not give in and I have started hinting to him that he only has a certain number of months before he's 18 and no longer my responsibility so he should be looking for a job and saving money to move out. I will not hesitate to kick him out if he doesn't shape up. It seems kind of harsh, but if you don't harden your heart with them, they will walk all over you and they know it.