Hi. I'm a single mom of a 7 month old boy who I love dearly. I'm having some problems coming to terms with the fact that my baby's father has left me to care for my child by myself. I don't understand how he could care so little about a life that is so wonderful. My biggest problem is that I have so much anger that has built up towards my baby's father and I don't know how to deal with it. I think waht makes me the maddest is when me and the baby are around the father's family, the father acts like he's so in love with my baby, but whenever it's just me, the baby, and the father, the father ignores the baby. I'm tired of him pretending. If anyone knows of anything that could help me get through this, I would greatly appreciate it. One thing for sure is that my faith in God has grown while coping with everything. -Paula

Hi welcome to the board.........
Im new here to but the people here are so wonderfully supportive and helpful youll find what you need to continue each day. it gets easier. my daughters father left when he first found out i was pregnant.shell be 2 next month, its been hard but its worth it. if you need anything even to vent let me know. just keep faith, as you wach your son grow the anger will fade away eventually and youll do nothing but concentrate on him.
keep in touch
Lesley

Hey,
I'm really new to this website too. Isn't it good to know that others are out there? I mean we all know there are but it's better to see it. Anyway, I can't really tell you how to cope with this any better than believing and trusting in God. This is one of the ultimate times to trust in Him and the fact that you are letting your faith grow stronger instead of giving up on God and what you believe in is a great testamony. I am really glad to hear that because I went away from God when I first became pregnant and I told my boyfriend and not but four months later he cheated on me like ten times. But anyway, things do get easier with time and I hope that all works out. Remember that God is your stronghold and that your son is the most important person in your life and although you would like his father to be a part of it, if that was not the will of God so be it although it may be hard to understand. I am having a hard time dealing with that thought myself right now. I'll be praying for you! Good luck and keep in touch if you like!
Melissa

Paula,

The best way to deal with your situation is to CHOOSE not to let him or your situation bring you down. Life is all about choices and we can either choose to live our lives in a negative way or a positive one. Better yourself, your life, take some classses, join a group, club, sport and you will see that this will be the ultimate way to be happy. Feel good about what you have. You may or may not be able to change the way your ex is, but you can change the way you deal with it. Remember he is the one who is missing out. What goes around comes around, so don't worry about him. Right now worry about you and your little one. Make the best for the two of you. We are here if you need someone to talk to, but if there is anyway to get into counseling for a while that would help you so much. *Big Hug*

Paula,

What Hutch said. I'm in a similar boat, but my son's five, and his dad is getting ready to move out of state. After several days of panic, I finally decided that I'll manage, just as I always have. He'll be missing out, and I can't control that.

Do what you have to do for you and your baby, and come here to vent whenever you need to.