Lately I have felt like Im running in circles talking to everyone and anyone who will listen to my situation. And in the end there is no solution to this problem. My whole pregnancy was really great until the babies father left me. Now a month later he is now back with his Ex. That was a blow I really didnt want to take. It hurts so bad I cant stand it. I have been on meds before for depression but I doubt there is anything to take while pregnant. I dont really want to go back down that road again either. I just feel so helpless and he makes me feel so worthless. I really cant believe hes back with her it is killing me picturing her in my house. The split was bad enough without this. And I still feel like calling him, I didnt yesterday There is no point in talking to him I only hurt myself and now hes talking about taking the baby from me when shes old enough that he has a lawyer... Im back with my mom and dad and right now, hes not too welcome in there home when the baby comes and he just thinks that everything is fine and dandy when its not I and they arent just going to forget how much he hurt me. I think right now the best thing is to have no contact with him but where am i going to get the strength not to call him or answer...He also talks about being with other women and his current woman to me like best *** Ive ever had... It really hurts. WHy is he hurting me so much I dont want to hear those things. I feel so overwhelmed, scared and really really helpless cause there is nothing I can do. sorry I Needed to vent again. Hoping for the answer that just wont come.

Vent all you want, that is what this is here for.

Keep your head on straight and don't call him so you don't get hurt.

Remember this formula:

Talking to ex = pain

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I went through pretty much the same thing and I remember how it felt. Just know that you wont feel that way forever.

On the way of anti-depressants, you can take Prozak in your 8 month and beyond. If you have a history of depression this might be a good thing to do considering that post-partum depression might be something you are in for.

I am sorry you are going through this and please continue to vent and talk to us here. I know that people here are supportive and I believe they will offer you the same support they offer others. Anytime you need to talk, we are here.

Don't fall into the "I'm am using my preganancy as an excuse to talk to him even though I know the baby is not born yet and there is really no reason" trap.

Not talking hurts for a little while, where talking digs the knife in deeper everytime.

Try to surround yourself with things that make you smile. When we focus no the bad, we give it power to grow.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by PITA:


Not talking hurts for a little while, where talking digs the knife in deeper everytime.

Thank You!, Those words couldnt of hit home any more. It might just be my new quote

You can use Welbutrin throughout your pregnancy. You can also use Vistaril for anxiety while pregnant.

All I know is that I know how you feel. And it isn't easy.

if you dont want some one getting your goat dont let them know where you keep it tied...crappy relationships with idiots are what makes real love seem so sublime when it does finally happen. love yourself,and treat yourself good....

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Originally posted by raymond:
crappy relationships with idiots are what makes real love seem so sublime when it does finally happen.

I love that! You have a great skill with the pen raymond. I've enjoyed your eloquence in these forums.

Natty, hang on in there... when the baby arrives, you will not care about the father anymore. The sweetness of your newborn child will make you forget all the bitter days of a failed relationship with the father. Take it from me... I was in your shoes just a few months ago.

Hello My name is Matty. I am a single mom of 2 little girls and one on the way I am going thru. The same thing Natty is going thru yes Baby Daddy left me as well. and we don't even talk any more to think even thou we have kids. their no words for us I guess it's also because my pain is so bad that I don't think I have anything nice to say.

But yes we have to be strong for our lil ones, and hope the pain get better..

matty,two little souls and a third on the way,my dear you will be anything but starving for love. Words get in the way so many times and many times left better unsaid,I would rather hurt and have that capacity than to be some soulless fool unaware of their predicament, peace to you kiddo, ray

I see Matzaris and raymond saying that after the baby comes you will be so happy that you will forget the father. How can this be? I am due to have our baby in Nov and I didn't want this baby HE did. I was done with the baby business and now our relationship is so screwed up that I can't leave him but I don't love him, **** I don't even like him anymore. It's economics that makes me have to stay.
I will be all alone in the room having HIS baby and then what?
OK I'm done.
Jen (Hawaii)