Is there such a thing? Ok, so I've been divorced for going on 2 years, and I was so strong in the beginning... but now it seems like it's starting to hit me. :| I don't miss my ex or being miserable and unhappy... but i think the fact of how easy it was. I guess it's normal once you jump ship and actually have to struggle for a while. Makes you relaize how easy it was before... being married, two incomes, pretty much buying whatever you wanted. :| As it is now, I can't even afford cable. All the while he stayed in the big 4 bedroom house, 3 bathrooms, 3 tv's, 250 channels of satelite, 2 car garage...etc etc. I've been feeling really down lately and need to know how to get out of it . I KNOW I did the right thing by leaving and I really am happier for it.. but how do I cope with feeling like a failure to my kids and not being able to buy them everything all the time now? I REALLY want to get a house, as we live in an apt now, but i shot all the settlement down the toilet to TRY to pay off my CC bill that i had to use for attorney fees and to use to help us live off of while going through the whole thing. I dont know what to do Sometimes all I can do is cry I feel like my life is slowly swirling down....down..down.... when will it get better?

Wow, you sound exactly like me!!! Dont worry, it will get better ( I know that seems like about the most useless piece of advice youve ever heard) but its true. You and the kids will adapt to your new lifestlye. Whats more important cable or happiness?? I know its frustrating, My downsize was so huge we now live in a 700 sq foot house with no room for even a kitchen table. I spent a whole night crying about the price of my daughters brownie uniform and dues. Take one day at a time, youll make it. Stop thinking about what he has, it will only drive you crazy! Trust me, it drove me crazy. The best revenge is happiness. Well worth repeating, THE BEST REVENGE IS HAPPINESS!!! You can do it. You are doing it. Contact me anytime, Im in your boat.

Thanks Rivertreeangel, i REALLY needed to know someone knows how I feel. I am not one to weigh too much on the material things, but there comes a point where it DOES bother me. I mean, here I try to escape a bad situation and better myself, my sanity, and my kid's lives, and I feel like I'M the one who got screwed. :| I'll try your advice, one day at a time, and the best revenge IS Happiness. I DO know that at least my kids dont' sit in front of the TV all day at my place like they do at his We actually have to be creative and find things fun to do and get OUTSIDE and PLAY So I know that's good. He had one of those Step One (is that what they're called) heavy duty playhouse structure things in his basement for the kids to play on. We bought it about 3 years ago. My kids are now 7 and 4, but no where near outgrown it. (the thing was HUGE, was like $400) :O Well, my kids told me last night that he got rid of it. :| They were devastated, and I dont blame them. Why on earth would he do such a dumb thing :| I'm irked he took they're play structure away from them. Course then again this is the man who would never let us put in a sandbox or any other kind of kids play set/ swingset on his precious GRASS :| OY!!!

Oh....I knew a guy like that...if you saw my front yard...LOL..you'd KNOW "I" wasnt one of those guys.

Btw,....did you know you can take gas and spell his name in the grass? LOL

Sorry...I shouldnt say that.

Wow no I didn't know that Paul But I have been tempted to pour clorox over the plants in his yard that I planted years ago :O , but then again with my luck... and Karma... I'd so totally get caught :\

Oh yeah!....with the gas...if you do that...nothing green will grow there for months...turns every thing yellow! p*ss yellow! LOL

Of course, it's illegal ....but....only if you get caught.