I'm so emotional lately. I'm not one to cry but lately it's all I've been doing. I'm trying to stay strong and grab a handle of my situation but there so much uncertainty. I'm struggling at work (can't wait till christmas break); I'm struggling with my son's behaviour; my son is struggling with school and kindercare; staff all around are stuck not knowing what to do; I feel like I'm to blame; my son hates me; my friends can't relate; my coworkers have heard enough; my family have a full plate; I've pretty much flooded this forum as well with my dilemas. I've often thought of keeping a distance, as I have been. It's just the same saga, with little difference and few rewarding days. I'm starting to doubt my beliefs; myself; my path. I feel like I'm being pulled into a direction I don't want to take with my son in regards to medicating. I cry just thinking of that. My house is a mess; my laundry is piled up. I'm worried over my son and his life and his future. I don't want to hear "you're a good mom". If that were true, my life would be in control. I hear that all the time but it means nothing. It just numbs me.

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Oh, Miss Jes, I'm so sorry you are down. If you have tried everything without medication and your son's behavior is still out of control, then maybe medication is the answer. I feel the same way you do about medicating for behavior problems, but in some cases it is absolutely necessary. Is the doctor you deal with, concerning your son, understanding of your position on medication? If so, maybe you two could discuss starting something very mild and/or very low dose. Maybe just a little bit of medication and your continued approach to handling his behavior will do wonders. Another thing to keep in mind is this time of year and the fact that you said you are under a lot of stress with work and such. Maybe your son is also feeling this tension and that is contributing to his behavior. I know saying you are a "good mom" doesn't solve the problem, but that doesn't mean it isn't true. We just can't control EVERYTHING around us. Don't worry about venting on this forum. That is what this forum is for, so we can help each other. I hope things get better for you soon! Keep us posted!

You have been so strong doing all this on your own, I don�t understand really what it is like to have an ADHD child and feel pathetic when I get bogged down when I do not have that to deal with. Is it possible to employ someone for half a day to give your house a spring clean and catch up on the housework so at least that does not feel so overwhelming. It sounds stupid but I know when I have got completely buried by life just that small thing out of my way makes the other things seem surmountable again. It is so hard when you feel you are stuck in a holding pattern with nothing improving and I understand that thing where it is all the same stuff and not feeling like you can talk about it anymore because nothing is changing.
Kia kaha (stay strong)

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Originally posted by netsurfr:
[qb] If you have tried everything without medication and your son's behavior is still out of control, then maybe medication is the answer. [/qb]

I can't afford to do that. It goes against everything I'm about. I still believe diet is a huge factor. I just need to tweak it a bit more. I also think there's more going on than his ADHD diagnoses.

Jes have you tried any cognitive therapy with him it takes a while but you could help him see when he is losing control and have a chance to go somewhere quiet to settle himself and then go back and join the group.My second born child has a sever case of adhd.I went as far as volenteering in his class daily to keep him at school instead of suspended.As a parent it feels like no matter how hard you try it just isnt enough.First thing is at school and kindercare could they have a consistant person working with him all the time.My son would get really squirmy at any change.If the door was usually open and the teacher closed it he would just lose control.The less change around these kids the better.If a change is going to come give him advanced notice of the change like an assembly.It takes alot of schedueling so every day is the same.A better wording I guess would be routine.I hope this helps a bit.I am thinking about you and your son.I hope that you can catch a break soon and have some unwind time kiddo.The high energy children can run a parent to the point of exhaustion.take care of yourself and try to remeber that most of the adults complaining are pretty use to telling a parent that the child needs meds first.The majority of people I dealt with seeking help for Jesse went for the quick fix.Make the child a zombie and the staff will all be happy.As a parent we see the bigger picture like side effects,long term damage to our children.It is a long road but I am hear for you anytime you need some one to talk to.Take care and hugs Gail

Thank you everyone. I've posted an update in the open forum. I really appreciate your support. I know I've been a bit distance lately but I think I've been able to bounce back .. at least for now.

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Glad to see you back Miss Jes. I noticed you've been posting and as usual with great advice and encouragement. I really did miss seeing you on here.