I know that for obsticle in our lives we are to learn something. I just wonder why some of us have to go through so much more than others. Everyone can give you advise on how to do this or that. No one can ever take the time to say go here and you can help for this or that. I am seperated getting ready to go through a divorce. I have 3 children. I am trying to relocate to Grand Prairie Tx. I am trying to go back to school for court reporting. I have been reading some of the postings and no one ever replys how to help a person. Only words like keep the faith and things like that. One of the young women that has 2 children and her mate left her for a man. My heart cries out to her. (ESSENCE) Let's see if we can help one another. Right now we all need it....

Hi Sandy

from Malaysia here... and very new to this site.

I agree that life is complicated and sometimes can be quite bad .... but i also believe that if life is not complicated then, there isn't a life.....

I am a widow with a 3 yr old son... my husband left us last year July. Ya... life is even more complicated and difficult after his death but life goes on ....

What i believe is faith get 2 person together and it is also faith that separate the 2 persons..... if he/she is not meant to be with you, then, we should learn to let go .... no one could tell one what and how to do it, but we all know what we should do. Just need to be realistic and think of the priority in our life and i am sure everything will be fine ....

cheers

Hi! I'm from Croatia-Europe.My english is not so good but I hope you will understand. I am a single parent of two daughters, 14 and 4. Few mothers like me are trying to register a group for single parents so that we can help each other by supporting, helping in every days life, fighting for our rights,...
Personaly, my main problem is that I don't feel "guilty" for having this kind of life. I didn't made such mistakes, I didn't deserve it anyhow, but I have to deal with it. Somehow, I feel like someone put on me his bag of problems and let me deal with it.
And that makes me angry. But, tomorrow is another day. I am trying to go step by step. Sometimes better, sometimes not. But the days are going, kids are growing, and somewhere in between I find something for me.

Hey I am new here.I am also new to the idea of being a single mother of 3 children.I have just fallen into this catagory about 5 months ago.Since then I have been evicted from my home,moved in with friends,found my own place and moved in alone.When my husband left the state,he left me no money and stopped paying our utilities and rent plus car payment.As a result I had to move out of our home in two weeks time with 3 children.My utilities had been disconnected and now our car is about to be reposessed.
I have been jobless because when he left he said he was going to make money in CT(I am in GA),so I stopped working to watch the children.I haven't been able to find a good paying job yet and it is 5 months later.
I have been suffering from migraines so bad that I can not even function anymore.My last migraine(ongoing right now)has been with me for 2 weeks and not letting up.My stress level is so bad that my menstrual cycle visits me every 2 weeks on a regular basis,I have migraines that floor me, and I do not sleep at night.I cannot even find a job!
How do you go on?I am about at the last of my rope.I have lost my will to keep trying to make things better.I am not suicidal just lost for words and things to say and do.I am so mentally tired of dealing with this.

I am very happy that people are reading the postings. to the young lady from GA. Is there anyway you can get assistance from the Department of Human Services with your car. If you go down and talk to them and explain your situation to them they will help you. they will also provide you with child care. also they will help you to get a job. I use to work for the Department of Human Services a couple of years ago. they have all types of programs that will help you. also they will send you back to school. Do it for yourself and your kids. This is what I am talking about. We need to get involved and help out. If there is something you know that can help out someone else tell them. It may save them and their children. Also go to the Housing Authority in GA and apply. Do what ever it takes to get back on your feet. We fall down but don't stay down. Get back up. and you can become what ever you want. Sometimes you need a helping hand.

Wow, I thought I was the only one feeling this way. It seems like every time I take one step forward, I take two steps back. I have a young daughter with some medical problems. I have no one here to help me deal with her, all of my family live out of state. Do you guys ever feel like there isn't enough time, money is always a problem no matter how hard you try and every day things get more difficult. I get up every day and go to work. Every week for the last two or three months something unexpected has come up that has taken the last dime I have. My daycare is behind, my bills are behind but every day I go to work to try to get a little out of the water. Some days I feel so hopeless but I have this little girl that I am responsible for that really doesn't have anyone else. Sometimes I feel guilty that I am feeling sorry for myself and would like to just give up. What do you guys do to get out of this slump? I've tried everything. I can't get away because I don't have anyone to watch my daughter and at 2 I am safer to stay at home. I feel so hopeless. Thanks for listening.

Hello all,
I have been reading the postings since I have joined SFV.com 2 days ago and want all of you to know that I feel for all of you and your situations. Granted, each of us are dealing with our own different struggles, but we are all sharing our pain with one another and I think it's wonderful that there are people out there (SandyB) who really care and want to help. If there is anything I can do for any of you, I can be there to listen and try to give the best advise and support I can. Mommy3, There is a fabu book called "what color is your parachute" . It may help you find your "niche" in life as you look for a good job. I find that there are a lot of good books that can help our common situations whether you need something to help you deal with your pain, depression, job concerns, etc. I'm currently reading one now titled "The courage to love again". I found it in the self-help/divorce section in Borders Bookstore. Can you believe there is an entire section in the bookstore just on the topic of divorce!!!! Whoah! Anyway, my heart goes out to you all. I'm here for ya ladies!!! Thanks for being there for me too.

Anita- to help myself through the tough times I take a moment to remember where I was 2, 5, 7 or 10 years ago. I was in a mariage with an abusive man. I may be barely keeping my head above water now, but it is MY head, and MY water, and I am doing it on MY own. I have music that I listen to that soothes my soul, and I have become involved with a single mom's group at my church. There have been times when I have taken someone's kids to allow them some time for whatever, and a couple of emergencies whre they have done the same for me. I enjoy the time I have with my daughter, sometimes doing nothing more than making cookies or playing cards (she is 12, and is able to carry on a somewhat intelligible conversation, unlike a 2 year old). And when I start to feel sorry for myself, I ask her for a hug, and that reminds me that life is good, and she matters and stuff doesn't.

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[qb]I know that for obsticle in our lives we are to learn something. I just wonder why some of us have to go through so much more than others. Everyone can give you advise on how to do this or that. No one can ever take the time to say go here and you can help for this or that. I am seperated getting ready to go through a divorce. I have 3 children. I am trying to relocate to Grand Prairie Tx. I am trying to go back to school for court reporting. I have been reading some of the postings and no one ever replys how to help a person. Only words like keep the faith and things like that. One of the young women that has 2 children and her mate left her for a man. My heart cries out to her. (ESSENCE) Let's see if we can help one another. Right now we all need it....[/qb]