Hi, i am a single of 2 wonderful kids.I have no family around so i am really alone.The father abandoned the kids and i am desperatly trying to better their lives by going to school and getting an education so i can get a good job.My problem is my son,he is so fast and the energy well i chase him all day long,he climbs i take him down and this continues all day when i am home and all evening after school on school days.Ex: he tore my curtians down 3x this morning....I don't think i can keep up,i love him to death but i am getting so irratated ,cranky and irratable.Any advice for a women about to lose her mind..if it is savable! :badday:

J ( I can't call you by your user name.... you are somebody),

Terrible twos? Boy they sound terrible. Lots and lots of structure, quality time (I know not much of that), and consequences he can understand.

I too am going to school and working full time. However, I only have one, she is 13, and I have my mother living with us. I still feel like I am losing my mind at times.

Other than the above, unfortunately, I have no advice and those actions will take time. Maybe others will have better advice for you. There are many wonderful people on here in many different situations but, we all are single parents in some way or another.

How old are your kiddo's?

my girl is 7 and my boy is 2, i think it is the fustration of having to be the disiplinee and missing out on the rest because both are in constant need of redirection and timeouts....so it seems.My daughter has had behavior issues for5 yrs now and my son is in the terrible two's or what i like to call the terrible twin syndrome(one good,one evil)and i am all by my self, studying after they go to bed till morning and cleaning house before school and i am wiped. I just need people to talk to to keep me sane.

you found the right place... quite a few of us like to talk in here.. huh sueP? (me too )

This place is the only adult conversation outside of work and my mom. It keeps me sane.

Well you've got people to talk. You may stay sane. We cannot guarantee our own sanity though!LOL

I'm having lots of behavioral things in my house too. (I've got three of your daughters -- sanity isn't even in the dictionary at this house) I cannot imagine having a little one around that is for sure. My oldest had a wonderful 2yr age. The other two, well, not so much. I just remember lots of stuff being tested out in the toilet, broken/bent curtain rods, ugh.... didn't matter if I left everything out or put everything away, they found a way -- they still do.

I bet that little boy is just sweet and cute as buttons when he falls to sleep at night!

(Ca, how is it I haven't been around much and you now have fewer posts than I do... I'm going to take a break until you get ahead of me again, it was one thing I could always count on ya know)

he is cute as a button. 3 kids wow! My girl has a anger problem, i do my best with her.I gotta get some sleep , i am so exausted. studying isn't working tonight,i am just getting over being sick so my body is probably just in need of more sleep.I will show you a pic of my kids tomorrow if you are on.
night

Hey somebody... I can't wait to see photos of the kids! Get some sleep and get well, maybe the studying will be more successful tomorrow.

SueP, I have been running around in circles over here. This ECO class is kicking my behind. Only one more class and that will be all over and I have an A so far!!!! Holy Moly! I can't believe it. My sis keeps calling me over achiever.

No.. you can't wait for me to catch up! Everytime I try to post as fast as you do the error message keeps coming back at me saying "the message was not posted to prevent over flooding" or something to that effect.

I completely understand!!

It has been a while since mine were that age, but oh how I remember!! I was lucky, my mother was around - not living with me, but close. She had so much patience I was always amazed.

Her advice was, that kids can tell when you are frustrated and at the end of your rope. Take 5 go splash water on your face or put headphones on loud enough to drown them out for a few minutes, and then go back - a little refreshed.

Also, she had a way of including the kids in almost everything she did. I don't exactly know how. She did it with me too. When she baked pies, she shaved the pot-pie tins so that I could make a little pie too. She was amazing!

Try to think of ways the kids can "help" you. Color when you have homework - their "homework". Or mix fake ingredients when cooking. Play basket ball with unbreakable toys when cleaning up. Anything that turns your time productive and makes then think they are helping is great.

She also handed down a book to me call "The Everything Book". It is very old, and I'm not sure if it is even in print anymore. This has great ideas of how to keep kids occupied with common household items, that don't cost alot or nothing at all.

Good Luck! You'll make it through! :hugme:

hello! my son is exaclty the same , all day long i am pulling off or down or outta something. he has figured out how to push some of his toys over to things( tv, counter top) that are normally too high for him to climb. he isn't even two yet, i am looking into taking a first aide course b/c he's such a daredevil. luckily, i live with my mom so to get a break if i feel the need

FLood protection kills me, Ca, kills me.....

Somebody, I know how you feel. Well almost, my children are older 10 & 14. I have no family close to me so I have to do it all on my own. My teenager can be very trying. I try to keep my eye on the prize. The prize is turning my children into healthy happy adults. I have had some serious bouts of depression. I found that just talking to people who have the same experiances that I have has been the best therapy. I now know that I am not alone. You have come to the right place. Good luck and keep your head high.

When my daughter was going through the terrible 2's i was a full time student and boy was it tough. What helped me through it was a great deal of consistency. No matter much you want to give in you have to stick to your guns. Eventually it will all come together.

My daughter is 13 now and there are different kinds of issues that come with that age group. There are days that i don't think i'll make it out of this thing in one piece.