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Originally posted by miss jes:
Does anyone else here feel disconnected to everyone? The only people I can count on these last few months is my son and my bf (in which I'm planning on breaking up with today). I can't connect with ANYONE beyond the surface. I wonder if that's all part of depression or if there's something more going on with me? I haven't been clinically diagnosed with anything but I find if I don't keep myself busy, I feel myself spiraling downwards. This usually happens once a month.. or so it seems lately.

Know that feeling everyday of my life.
No empathy, no feeling, no ambition, drained, cycling thoughts and emotions and like there isn't much point to anything. I fight it everyday. Did the Cymbalta (made me nuts had to quit), and couple others. Didn't help.
Things that do help me. Excercise, my diet, outside in the sunshine as much as possible, and hanging out with my son.
Things I avoid, alcohol, too much TV, and try to get good amount of sleep (a blessing for an insomniac)
Hope you feel better soon.

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Do the docs in the states work the same way? Just curious and is there such thing as a mild perscription and a stronger one in terms of the type of pill?

Yes they start you on a very low dose (for most) and raise or lower it as necessary.

Miss Jes,

Hmmm...so you think it is a seperate issue?
What other symptoms do you have?

When you sleep are you getting a good sleep where your not tired in the morning?

Let's say you get an invitation to go out with your friends? What are some things that go through your mind?

nah, it's not pathetic at all, but I am concerned a little with the speech...please go to teh doctors and get yourself checked out...write down your symptoms cause we tend to forget the most important ones that the doc needs to know of.

I wonder if your simply stressed out to the point that, making plans is a chore, having to be somewhere at a certain time, and making sure to be there when someone else is expecting you...simple things like that seem simple tends to add alot of stress when we simply had enough. Let's face it, life moves fast. We work, rush our kids off, rush home, rush for dinner, chores, etc...

If it has been lasting for several weeks, you may want to go in to see your family doctor to at least chat about it.

Otherwise, it is normal to have ups and downs I think, and periodically i have gone through the isolation phase, partly because I need to sit still. Sometimes there just comes a time, when enough is enough, and it is time to chill out.

If your missing cycles, sounds like your system is entirely out of wack, and once that is under control again, you may start feeling better...teh question is, what is causing your cycles to be so out of control like this? I tend to get depressed when my body is out of balnce like that, even if a cold is coming on, etc...

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Originally posted by miss jes:
Does anyone else here feel disconnected to everyone?

... This usually happens once a month.. or so it seems lately.

Hi miss jes,

I still tend to feel a bit down about once a month, I try to shake it off but it doesn't work, I'm not sure if the feeling is disconnection for me, but I blame it on my cycle since it tends to happen around that time.

At one point in my life it was really bad, I cried for no apparent reason, at the drop of a dime, felt like I was the only one feeling very sad and alone (at that time I was going through separation from my children's dad). I was diagnosed with a personality disorder but my therapist didn't believe in putting me on on antidepressants immediately.

Here's a thought that came to mind. Since it seems to be tied in to your cycle, maybe you are somewhat anemic. It would be worsened during your cycle with the blood loss and anemia can bring on feelings of depression, fatigue, trouble concentrating etc.
Have you had a blood test lately?

It can also be caused by lowered estrogen levels...much like menopausal women. If you are on a birth control you would have higher testosterone levels. You might talk to your OB/GYN about your birth control or lack thereof. They can use them to level off hormones sometimes in women who are having an imbalance.

I suppose they'd have to test your hormone levels during your cycle. I think that'd be a little rough though. Perhaps easier to try suggested therapies for it without testing hormone levels?

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Originally posted by miss jes:
Wow thanks for all of your great suggestions everyone! I really do appreciate them all.

Dancing mom, how are you feeling now (without the meds)?

Actually, I was told I was codependent and needed to learn coping skills for what I was going through at the time, so, my therapist didn't prescribed any drugs. I continued one on one therapy and learning coping skills for my situation.

Needless to say, I was distraught of the lying and cheating that was going on at the time, which also resulted having so much anxiety that my appetite suffered. Thank God that's over.

I still today get a bit down around the time of my cycle. Don mentioned anemia, I have had that also, maybe I should have my doctor looked into that. Thank for asking Miss Jes.