Well I have posted other places but this be my story.
Not at all good and maybe my only good that came out of it was my little girl.
I was married, well still am and I found out that the man I was married to was having a affair. Okay after it hit and settled in I was heart broken we had 4 wonderful girls together.
How could he do this to me? That was my question for a long time.
Well I buried my self into my job and taking care of my kids and things that I would normally brush off. (passes and stuff) seemed to affect me more now. Temptation was there at every turn it seemed.
Well to make a long story short I ran into a guy I had known for awhile and well one thing led to another and before I new it we had slept together.
Maybe 5 or 6 times and then I just had to walk away. I felt so bad and horrible.
Well, fall came and so did the morning sickness and I knew what I did was even worse then I imaged.
I called to let him know and that's when I found out he was married. He told me that he broke up with his girlfriend back when we were seeing each other. That never happened. Boy was I stupid. Here I was married and having a baby with a man that was not my husband.
To make it even worse I am white the baby's dad is mexican.
She was born in May. Red as red can be. So cute and wonderful. She's over a year now and things are still as they were.
My husband does not know the turth nor do I think he would want to. He seems to love her but the older she gets the more she looks like her real dad.
As far as he goes, he calls just to make sure I don't say nothing to his wife.
Well, that's why I worry so much about how she might feel when she grows up. It makes me cry I was stupid.
Somedays are easier then most. I worry that I won't be able to give her what she needs in the long run. You know I read and know alot of mexicans are very much family centered. So I just don't understand why his daughter is not allowed that. I hear the woman he is with, his wife? They don't even have kids, how that for a slap in the face.
I guess today is one of those bad days.

Well I dont have much advice but to comfort you I am also having a horriable bank.
I am sexually frustrated.
I am finacially frustrated, I have a bank who
is in germany has me negetive until they UPDATE the bank account in the mean time I have no access to money checks are bouncing in my bank account thinking I could withdrawl from my normal bank account this happens pretty much eveny month with this bank I am debt with this bank 7 grand.
And well switching banks would take me to pay off about 2100 worth of debt before I can change a credit card and a over draft.
So I am stuck. Dealing with a bank that shouldnt even be called a bank.
And mentally frustrated I am married to a man who
gives blondes the jokes that they recieve.
He needs his mother not a wife.
Anyway there is my vent today.

As far as your situation , some men will take on the responsiablity some wont.
Not all of any culture or race takes on their responsiablity. There are bad apples on every tree. And if you tell his wife you are looking at telling your husband, your in a delema I will tell you that I do wish you luck thought and best wishes.

well
I have had one of those bank as well and the blonde jokes to go with it.
Well, I enjoyed reading your vent to know that it is not all that bad.
I hope your problems get better.
This board has helped me realize that it could really be worse.
I wish you hte best with your bank and best wishes.
Penny

Hi Penny, here is my thought. Sometimes the truth can be the hardest thing of all to face. I won't say what you should or shouldn't do.
I will only mention that if something were to happen down the road, particularly medically, it could then be revealed who is and isn't the biological father. The truth will likely be even harder to deal with at that time.

Don

I hope today is going better Penny!

hi
Everyday get's better then the past but you still have draw backs.
Thanks for caring and the medical thing, you have a point I never thought about it that way. Thanks goodness she is healthy so far.
I guess I just need some help being a single mom to her and a place where I can vent about things...
Thanks again for listening.
Penny