I have lived with depression for well over 16 years now. **** my mother was a multiply. In the past 2 years I have agreed to take medicine to help me cope with life changes. I have anxiety about everything. Which comes and goes with my life events. In recent events with my daughters father and his current situation my anxiety has gotten worse and my depression is back. I recently had a panic attack which I hhave not had in years. I need help, advice, or even some suggestions to figure out a way I can't stop worry so much about things I can't control. (ie: the way my daughters father handles her and what he allows go on un his home) I left him 3 years ago the relationship was verbally/emotionally unstable. I find myself gettig upset with the fact that he is doing all these "family things" with his current gf with my daughter and it kills me. I even find the fac tthat he treats her 100% times better then he ever did me. Why is all this bothering me when I left for good reason
and would not return if I had the opportunity. I do not love him never did. I find myself more upset that "our family" is no longer together. And he is starting a new one with his gf. I know this all seems so jumbled and may not make sense. I am just lost and only seems to be ok when I am with my daughter. Please someone tell me you know how I am feeling and lend me some advice to overcome/get over/ move forward. Because I can't live like this. I can't seem to focus on my life right now.

when his gf first came int he picture I was so sad and upset. I was worried my daughter was going to like her better. She spoils the **** out of her. On top of that his gf will not let me communicate with my daughters father. she is pure evil. she has gone as far as send me messages saying " your daughter called me mommy today" she knows thoses are the things that hurt so much. she has done numerous other things to me in hopes that I will just walk away and not be a mother to my daughter. almost as if she wants my daughter as her own. well now she is pregnant and is goign to have her own child. I do not wish to be back in that situation she is in now with my ex. But y is it I always am the bigger person to her and my ex and I still let it all get to me. I know my daughter know she only has 1 mommy and its me. It took me time to figure that out.

Hey Bunny You've taken the first step by seeking out someone to talk to. I understadn COMPLETELY how you feel. My ex practically has his GF living with him and they do all the 'family' things we used to do too. So I know EXACTLY how you feel. But in my opinion, and from what my friends tell me, he's actually Miserable inside because he lost YOU. He replaced you with someone else and is trying to make YOU feel bad for leaving. Mine pulls the same tricks. He looks down his nose at me because it 'looks' like he came out the 'winner'. When in reality it's YOU who is the winner because you escaped the abusive situation. And, yes, YOU are the MOM- you always will be THE mom. Yes there are great step-mom's out there, but you will always be #1. We're with ya Hang in there >>>hug!!!<<<<

Wow. First, let me say, Ouch. My child isn’t even born yet, and if someone ever made that statement to me I would be livid. You appear to have remarkable self-control. Kudos. It’s important to keep your head. Second, don’t let this girl bother you. Your daughter is absolutely gorgous, and regardless of who else enters her life, you will always be the “mommy.”

Also, a question or two: I know you said that this new gf doesn’t let you talk to your ex. Well, who schedules the visitations and handles the communication between the two of you? If its possible, have an honest conversation with your ex. You could tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not allow his new gf to send you messages that like or treat you in such a callous way. Also, it sounds like the new gf is insecure in her relationship b/c of the way she treats you. Maybe you could explain to her that you 100% don’t want your ex back, but that you do have to maintain contact for the sake of your daughter. If she’s too immature to deal with it, and your ex doesn’t do anything to stop her bad behavior, I’d consider blocking her phone number so she can’t contact you, and possibly even resorting to a third party to mediate the communication btw both sides.

The bottom line is this, you don’t deserve that. And depression is hard enough to deal with without that jack*** making it worse. Don’t let them get you down, and if they do, we’re here for you 