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quote: Originally posted by kenzeesmom:
[qb]My life has become so unbelievable stressful and its so hard to handle! I'm taking paxil and lately it barely takes the edge off. I feel like bursting into tears all the time! After Kenzees dad left I thought I'd never date again, or at least not for a very long time. Well a few months ago I started dating this guy and now we live together... at first he was really nice but now he just stresses me out so bad! I can't leave because I have no money and he always gives me this crappy guilt trip so i never leave anyways. I'm fed up with his crap and his lies and I can't take it anymore. But without the funds its like i'm stuck and don't have any choice. Everyday I wake up hoping he'll be gone and he never leaves! I feel like a child most days because thats how he treats me. We've argued about everything under the sun in the past 6 months... its just rediculous! I can't even talk to him anymore because we always wind up fighting. I don't want my daughter raised in that kind of household. I don't know what to do. I go to school full time and then come home to put up with his crap... i just don't have the energy to work full or part time and go to school and be a mom. I feel like i'm being pulled in 1000 different directions. I never thought it would be like this, if i had i would have never let him move in. I was fine on my own, all he does is hold me back. UGH I'm so frustrated!!! thank you for letting me vent, but i have to go put up with more crap now.... thank you again for listening.[/qb]
Remember there is always someone going through worse....that's not to say that your situation isn't important, but there is sunlight in your storm...Your breakthrough is coming. When your deliverance from this relationship comes, and it will, take time to get to know you. We, single parents, tend to let loneliness dictate our paths and criterias in life. Yeah, we all get a little lonely at times, but SELF-WORTH is at what cost?????? If you're starting to feel like you could do bad all by yourself, honey, you can. Being all one with self and getting you back on track and healthy mentally and physically is essential to us and our children. We owe them that much and some. You and your child have to come first. If he is homeless and recycling cans on the street, he'll do what he needs to do and move on. Do you have any family you can get to help you evict this person? I know the law is what it is....but something has to give. That concerns me that you have to be medicated to deal with this issue. You are in my thoughts and prayers...You will get through this... Much love! |
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quote: Originally posted by kenzeesmom:
[qb]My life has become so unbelievable stressful and its so hard to handle! I'm taking paxil and lately it barely takes the edge off. I feel like bursting into tears all the time! After Kenzees dad left I thought I'd never date again, or at least not for a very long time. Well a few months ago I started dating this guy and now we live together... at first he was really nice but now he just stresses me out so bad! I can't leave because I have no money and he always gives me this crappy guilt trip so i never leave anyways. I'm fed up with his crap and his lies and I can't take it anymore. But without the funds its like i'm stuck and don't have any choice. Everyday I wake up hoping he'll be gone and he never leaves! I feel like a child most days because thats how he treats me. We've argued about everything under the sun in the past 6 months... its just rediculous! I can't even talk to him anymore because we always wind up fighting. I don't want my daughter raised in that kind of household. I don't know what to do. I go to school full time and then come home to put up with his crap... i just don't have the energy to work full or part time and go to school and be a mom. I feel like i'm being pulled in 1000 different directions. I never thought it would be like this, if i had i would have never let him move in. I was fine on my own, all he does is hold me back. UGH I'm so frustrated!!! thank you for letting me vent, but i have to go put up with more crap now.... thank you again for listening.[/qb]
 HTIS SITUATION OF YOURS REALLY PISSES ME OFF I WENT THROUGH A SIMULAR SITUATION LIKE YOURS 4 ALMOST 8YRS. IT STARTED OUT LIKE YOURS AND TRUTHFULLY THE MONEY SITUATIN IS WHAT KEPT ME PUT IT SOMETIMES MADE IT SEEM LIKE HE WAS PAYING ME TO STAY BECAUSE HE KNEW I DID NOT HAVE ANY KIND OF LOVE LEFT 4 HIM IN MY HEART BODY OR SOUL. BUT FINALLY ONE DAY I WAITED TILL HE WAS GONE AND PACKED MY STUFF UP AND LEFT  NOT THAT IM TELLING U THAT U NEED TO LEAVE BUT II KNEW IF I WOULD HAVE PUT HIM OUT AND CHANGED THE LOCKS R WHATEVER ELSE HE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN 2 ME SOME KIND OF WAY AND HIT ME LIKE HE HAD DONE B4.BUT I DID LEAVE.AND NOW I AM HAPPY VERY HAPPY. IT MAY B HARDER RAISING MY 4 KIDS AND GOING 2 SCHOOL AND WORKING BUT ITS ALL 4 ME AND MY KIDS.THATS ALL THAT MATTERS.RIGHT???? quote:
LIVE 2 B HAPPY,LIVE 4 U quote:
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| Posts: 9 | Location: tennessee | Registered: 10 July 2004 | |
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Thank you for your positive attitude. I divorced 6 months ago- lived with family for the entire time and just moved out with my 2 and 4 year olds. I don't want a relationship at this time because I want to spend time with my girls and I need to work on being independent. I am literally terrified of being alone- I am seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist to help me deal with my fear but I must admit a relationship is tempting to avoind being alone. I am not able to work because my job is extremely detail oriented and I am only getting 30- 60 minutes of sleep- so the bottom line for me is KEEP THE "NEW RELATIONSHIP" HORROR STORIES COMMING!!! I THINK IT WILL HELP TO KEEP ME OUT OF TROUBLE. quote: Originally posted by All4Mine:
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Remember there is always someone going through worse....that's not to say that your situation isn't important, but there is sunlight in your storm...Your breakthrough is coming.
When your deliverance from this relationship comes, and it will, take time to get to know you. We, single parents, tend to let loneliness dictate our paths and criterias in life. Yeah, we all get a little lonely at times, but SELF-WORTH is at what cost?????? If you're starting to feel like you could do bad all by yourself, honey, you can. Being all one with self and getting you back on track and healthy mentally and physically is essential to us and our children. We owe them that much and some. You and your child have to come first.
If he is homeless and recycling cans on the street, he'll do what he needs to do and move on. Do you have any family you can get to help you evict this person? I know the law is what it is....but something has to give. That concerns me that you have to be medicated to deal with this issue.
You are in my thoughts and prayers...You will get through this...
Much love![/qb]
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| Posts: 5 | Location: Ohio | Registered: 22 July 2004 | |
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kenzeesmom
i think sort of understand your situtation, when you fight like that each and every day,and you can not longer stand to be near that person, stress starts to build up to a point that is dangerous. i was there. i was like that for about 5 months. like you i attend college. it started to effect that, and every other aspect of my life. but when you do leave, it is like such a happiness/releif/change. alot of things improved for me. but one thing,, if you are unhappy in your relationship,,, i think your daughter is/might be old enough to see things and understand. it is sad but true but history has a bad habbit of repeating it's self.
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