I had my daughter a month ago. I cry over nothing and other crying during my pregnancy, I've never been a cryer. All I want to do is sleep and when I lay down I can't. I eat like I'm still pregnant. I am a grumpy, angry, easily annoyed, emotional bitch. I don't feel like a "mom" at all. I love my daughter and she's beautiful, but sometimes I want to leave her at my parents and run away. I don't want to hurt her I just feel like I have to get away. I feel horrible for thinking thoughts like this. I want a relationship again, but it wouldn't be right at the moment and I don't have time anyway. I live in an ice box and it's really not safe for me to leave the house with a baby. I feel so lonely. The sperm donor and I parted when I told him I was pregnant, because he thought his sperm was defective and I must have cheated. I am having a lot of problems with him and wonder if the stress from that and a newborn all on my own are the reasons for my "not feeling fabulous". Am I just stressed? Or is it hormones? Or am I depressed? I'm scared to say anything to my mom or friends, because I think they'll think I'm a bad mother or that I don't love my little girl and I do. And I haven't told my doctor because I don't want him to prescribe medicine. I was on different antidepressants in high school and they kept me from sleeping and made me feel groggy or wierd, I can't be like with my daughter. Has anyone else felt this way? What should I do?

I dont know if I can speak for all of us, but I think we all have a little bit of the blues after having a baby. I did. I had thoughts that I didnt want to tell anyone about. I was really sad, and cried a lot. I think its just hormones, and the fact that you are saying goodbye to the life you once knew, for a new one, that you know nothing about. I cried over cheese!! Hallmark commercials, songs I heard on the radio. Its normal. It's not normal if it doesnt go away in a few months time. Dont be afraid to tell your doctor. My doctor specifically said that if I had the blues for a long time to tell her. You can discuss your fears about meds. and maybe the two of you can come up with an alternative way to deal with this. You dont HAVE to do what the doctor tells you, you have some say in the matter. Just make sure you take care of yourself. Its really hard, I know, and even harder if you dont have the baby's father around to help. I remember a friend of mine told me, she remembered with her first child sitting there, and feeling the way you do now. She found someone else, and has been married to him for years. They had two more kids together. You're going to be ok. Keep us posted, ok?

I was OK at first but then it hit. One night all I wanted was to sleep. I was so tired. Soooo tired. I think that alot of the baby blues are brought on by extreme exhaustion. I would definately go to the doctor. There is a difference between say valium or xanax and paxil or zoloft. You may not need anything. Ask if there is a homeopathic remedy, such as vitamins. If you can't talk to family or a trusted friend, then please go to the doctor.

My parents got me a silver family necklace for Christmas and I balled in front of them when they gave it to me. It's just me and her no dad and the necklace of a mom, dad, and baby made me cry. My mom got me a different one this morning. I made an appointment to see the doc on wed.