I was married for 6 years. I have two beautiful daughters and my husband had 3 boys by his first marriage. Back last year we found out some thing that were happening to his boys at their home with their mother and step dad. so my husband starting fighting to get the boys. I was behind him 100% and in august of last year we won in court. It was a big change for everyone but for me most. I felt like I was the one doing everything and it was hard handling 5 kids trying to keep house and a full time job too. I was under alot of stress and it got to where it showed alot. not only that we already had money issues. and with 3 more kids it was harder. I came home from work one Friday afternoon back in November and my husband and his kids had moved out. I had no idea that it had got that bad. It was a total shock. But after he had left and lot of my stress lifted I was okay with it. We became good friends and talk alot. We actually were closer being apart than we had been for about a year together. I don't know if he got scared of that or what but in the last couple of weeks he has been avoiding me. he will not take my calls and he don't talk like he use to. Well I feel like I have lost him all over again. and I have found myself more less stalking him now that he is acting this way. How do I let go so I don't lose his friendship that is if I have not already lost. I tried to get him to talk about it but he won't. That was always problems for us he keeps every inside and he want let anyone in. I just don't want to lose his friendship.

Not sure what you are saying.

You were married to the guy that got his children for 6 years?


Any way, sounds like this guy has some issues to work out, let him go.
Ummm, how does that saying go?

If you love someone let him go, if he loves you too he'll be back.

--- well, something like that.
Good luck and keep the
Peace
Robin

Hi bettyboop
I know this message comes kinda late but I thot i'll just drop u a note to share my thots on this one.
It was really generous of you (in heart n finances) for supporting your hubby in his court case for his 3 sons. I thot he shld b most grateful to you for that but instead he ran away w his kids out of the blue!
U know, when i was reading your post, at e back of my mind i was wondering how u could still b friends w him as if nothing has happened? I mean, this man was just so irresponsible n selfish!It seems to me that you treasure this relationship more than he does.
Sorry if i sound harsh on your husband but from your post, i just feel that he does not have the slightest sense of responsibility n commitment towards you n your daughters. Do u think this is fair to u?
Honestly, if i were u, i would just let him go. U have already given him a chance by reconciling w him after his sudden disppearance n now he is doing it again!If he does not cherish this friendship, y hang on to it? You deserve someone much better.