Rate Member posted 27 July, 2005 07:52 AM
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Hi everyone, my name is Al and im new here. And heres my story. My wife and i decided to call it quits after six years of marriage. I just cant believe its really over. She has wanted to leave in the past but always gave it another shot. We have communication problems like most of us do. I feel we rushed into this relationship and its slowly killing me now. We have three children all from previouse marriages but we dont use the words step father,mother,brother so on. She is looking for an apartment and she is ready to move on. Im still trying to exept all this and she seems to be business as usuall. When i first met my wife i truely fell in love with her, and still am. I feel that i let us down by not being more attentive and supportive. She says she will always love me but doesent love me like before. I dont know if anyone here has had those words said to them, but i feel like twenty years have been taken off my life. She would always reassure me that no matter what, we would grow old together, and i guess i always believed that. My wife is very intelligent and has started a carreer in VT, and i feel that she is starting a new life and she is growing everyday while i am left behind. We just bought a house in NH a year ago. We use to live in RI and i have no friends here and few in RI that i can really talk to. Over the past few days ive grown so much. I see all the things that i did to contribute to this failure, things that at the time seemed so small but now i see they were not. Always feeling she would never go, i never really tried to make this work and over the years her love for me diminished. And its just too late....... Al
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Posts: 1 | From: New Hampshire | Registered

Welcome to the forum Al,

Hopefully you can pick yourself up and begin to grow yourself from this, instead of looking at it like she is growing and you are being left behind. It's hard to go through a breakup, particularly when you are the person that doesn't want it to happen, but with some time you can be more accepting of it and get beyond it. Meanwhile feel free to hang out here where there are lots of great people to talk with.
Best wishes.