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I am New to SFV |
Hello everyone,
I am a college student at Metro State and I was doing a project on Single Parent Families and issues. The reason I am here is that I was wondering if you could answer some questions for me, if you are uncomfortable then I apologize but I am not trying to intrude just understand. 1) What is it like being a single parent? 2) Do you get help from the community around you? 3) Do you find it harder (financially) to raise your children? 4) Is easlier to not have to worry about another person that has needs to be meet? 5) Are your employment oppurtunities still the same? 6) Do you feel like there are more single parent families in todays society? I appreciate those who answer these questions, I too am one of three children in a single parent family, I am very happy and feel like my parent has given me every oppurtunity that they could give me. Although my parent has a different point of view as do you, to be able to see from someone elses eyes will help my research alot more. Thank you Mybiggie78 |
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"SEEKING: 25th hour & 8th day" At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Hi,
I will try to help here. You have come to a great resource for your assignment. 1) What is it like being a single parent? Stressful, tiring, aggravating, then there is .. WONDERFUL, REWARDING, HAPPY, AND BEAUTIFUL 2) Do you get help from the community around you? Community? not really. Family and friends most definately. 3) Do you find it harder (financially) to raise your children? Yes. For myself I fall into the category of not enough financially and way to much for any type of help or assistance. In many states child support is set up so that the "non residential" parent pays 27% of their income for child support. Well as the residential parent .. it 100% and then some. 4) Is easlier to not have to worry about another person that has needs to be meet? Another Adult? Yes, yes, yes and yes 5) Are your employment oppurtunities still the same? This does not affect me as I work for myself and have a somewhat flexible schedule but I have encountered through clients and friends that employment opportunities are not equal. 6) Do you feel like there are more single parent families in todays society? Yes |
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always ready to help for a project
1.it is sometimes frustraing because you have to deal with your ex about financial, custody, keeping rules the same in both houses, etc.But having your child makes that worth having. 2. my community consists of family and friends 3. absolutely. if you are a young adult you job chioce is limited. you have to struggle till you get your degree or find a good job.children are expensive they grow so fast. 4. if you mean in regard to having a spouse, yes. you only have to worry about your childs needs and not have to try to balance them. 5. No they are not. Not because you won't get hired for having kids, but because you have to find a flexible job. you end up limiting your job choice on your own.you can't work long hours and work all week like you did when you were single. 6. Yes i do. i believe it has to deal with soceity.it is just that sex, single families, divorce, drugs,condoms, birth control pills, and violence has become so common and easy accessibilty that noone thinks anything about it. although i don't blame soceity. it ultimately is a persons choice and noone can blame anyone but themselves. hope this helps you |
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Thank you so much you were alot of help, i wish you much luck and will talk to you again soon.
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"hugs welcome" Active Board Parent |
1) What is it like being a single parent?
Hard,stressful, terrific, enjoyable 2) Do you get help from the community around you?. My family and friends are a big help as well as some of the places i go to withinthe community where I make new friends 3) Do you find it harder (financially) to raise your children? Very much so. I am recently unemployed and that makes it somuch more difficult. 4) Is easlier to not have to worry about another person that has needs to be meet? Yes 5) Are your employment oppurtunities still the same? No, my hours have to be more structured due to daycare restrictions as wellthe company has to be more flexible because there are going tobe sick days and parent teacher interviews etc where i am going to miss work 6) Do you feel like there are more single parent families in todays society? Somewhat. there are different situations as to why though. I myself am a product of a single parent houusehold and I turned out great. Hope I Was helpful  |
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I am a single mother with two daughters and the answer to you question from my own experience is that yes it is much different raising a child by yourself. Everything is different. The stress level is higher and the chances of relieving that stress come less often. Everything from when and how long you sleep, take a bath, (for fear you children might get into something that will cause them to get hurt, it seems as thought we tend to sleep with one eye open, take baths or showers with the door standing slightly open so you can jump out and run at every little sound) and yes even working. It is hard to find a good child care provider that you can trust to take care of your child the way you would. Then if you are lucky enough to find them, they don't usually last very long. If your child get sick it is up to ONLY YOU to make sure that they get the help they need to feel better. Employeers HATE this. So then it gets harder to keep a job. And heaven forbid if you even think you want to start dating again. You would be shocked to know how many times someone will ask you out and then never call again when they find out that you have children. Or if they do stick around then you have to forever be on gaurd with your children and make sure that they don't abuse them mentally, physically or sexually. After all these men are not their fathers and they don't HAVE to love your child just because they love you. But there are some very good actors in the world. We get very little help from the community. And in some cases very little help from our own families. It takes a very strong person to play the role of Mommy and Daddy. And all we can do is pray that we are doing everything we possibly can to raise normal, responsible, respectable men and women. Tell you Parent THANK YOU cause now you know it's not easy. And yes I do believe that there are more single parent homes today than ever before. [EMAIL]wuzurtweety*hotmail.*** [/EMAIL] |
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"hugs welcome" Active Board Parent |
I am sorry to hear that you have had such a difficult experience as a single mom. I feel sorry for you and your pessimistic view because even when my life has been at its worst as a single parent I didn't have the views that you do. I hope that someday the world becomes a better place for you.
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"hugs welcome" Active Board Parent |
I'm sorry if anyone took my comments as patronizing or high handed they were not intended that way. I personally felt that the outlook was very pessimistic. I have found that the best way to get through is to be optimistic. I'm not saying don't be careful I just believe that attitude is what gets you where you are and I try to always have a good attitude even when I am down.
Yes Caley, I may only have one child but that one child is 7 and has already gone through a lot and is about to have more truths sprung on her that she needs to know but i don't know how well she will take it or if she is ready fully to handle it I am in the process of trying to get her help for her issues but there are waiting lists which although they drive me crazy I still have to believe that I will get the help I need for her regardless of the length of the waiting list. Maybe I have been lucky because I have gotten a lot of support from family, friends and community to an extent (more new friends that I have made in the community) but that is the only outl;ook I have to keep positive or I would spend everyday at home curled up in bed crying and that would get me nowhere. So I'm sorry if I have offended anyone but this is my outlook on things and I wasn't setting out to patronize or belittle anyone. Shannon |
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Shannon_77:
[qb]I am sorry to hear that you have had such a difficult experience as a single mom. I feel sorry for you and your pessimistic view because even when my life has been at its worst as a single parent I didn't have the views that you do. I hope that someday the world becomes a better place for you. [/qb][/QUOTI admire your attitude and hope that i will be able to have that attitude when my child is born. i have always been optimistic and easy going so i hope it continues on. also, i love your quote about the storms and God. it made me smile. keep up with the positive thinking, the world needs more of you!! |
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