hi everyone my name is daniella i am a 17 yr old student from sydney
i am researching for a personal interest project i have for society and culture.
i have chosen to do it on single parents and how the role of women has changed over the last 30 yrs
i was wondering if you could give me some advise or even personal opinions on how u think this traditional household/ wife image is diminishing with single parents now being mothers, workers, wanting the best 4 there kids and a social life for them elves too or how governments lack in childcare, allowances not allowing single parents to achive all their goals ,ect if u have anything or any stories, views to help me out i would really appreciate it thanks gals

Hi Daniella, Welcome to the forum.
I have read your post with interest.Are you solely interested in Single parents and the how the role of Women has changed in the last 30 years?or is there space for expansion to include males in the parenting role?
Iam a single daddy of 3 girl's 2,5 and 6 and also an external part time University student, just about to complete an essay on "Questioning identity and gender" as part of my 3rd year studies into Social Sciences.
If I could be any help to you it would be no problem. As part of my course covers your work specifically the changes that have taken place between the stay at home mother of the 50's and the career women of today trying to balance work with kids and the home.

With kind regards,

Mark

hey thanks im still at the first stages of my research so yeah i may also add the male role and how today there are more males looking after the kids and also a wanting a career for themselves. also it would be great if you would like to help me, i need all the help i can get right now this is the longest assesment i have ever recieved and i have much too do and its due in a few months. is it also ok when i get my survey/questionare finished to send it to u to do which would be great cos i dont know of many males in my area who are single parents . Thankyou any help will be greatly appreciated.

Hi Daniella, No problem at all.

Mark

My personal opinion is that this current civilization has lost our sense of values. The God-created design is for the man to be the leader and provider in our home. We women are supposed to take care of the things at home, the children, and love and support our husbands while they work to take care of us. BUUUUUUUUUUUUTTTTTTT...we have become materialistic--wanting more things than the average man can provide working only 40 hours a week. SOOOOOO, we women go to work so we can have more stuff (usually "junk"). Then, when women went to work, people underpaid them and treated them as the "weaker" sex. We women, thanks to the help of some strong over-liberated ones, decided we would not be thought of that way. We would prove we could do anything a man can do. As a single mother, I have learned to work on my car some, I had a huge part in the actual construction of my home including building the framework for the roof, I do all my own yardwork, I have installed a french drain, and last weekend, I built an incredibly sturdy loft bed (a bunk bed with only the top bed) and built a desk at one end underneath it and a ladder at the other end--from scratch without directions to follow and having never used the tools I had to use (like a circular saw). I teach all day, coach in the afternoons, referee in the evenings, volunteer when I can, and stay active in my church. I am 5'3" and weigh a whopping 105 pounds. I don't say any of that to brag. Because I have HAD to be very independent, I HAVE been. But I would LOVE to find a man who would love me enough to do whatever it took to support my financial and emotional needs so that I might take care of our home and children. Unfortunately, in today's society, that is a "foolish fairy tale" and takes away from my "rights and capabilities as a WOMAN". BUT, to support my insanity, our children are lacking the guidance it takes for boys to grow up into respectable men who can provide for their families, and the girls are growing up believing that being a "homemaker" is a lousy God-forsaken job! Personally, I would count it a privilege! To get back to good family values, marriages that last, homes that are fully functional again, we need to change our whole perspective. We need to let go of our materialism and cling to our families. Let the man lead (a far cry from "slavery"--"submission" means accepting that God has put your husband in the position to make good decisions on behalf of your family, not that he is the dictator!) I may be "old fashioned" for a 33 year old, but it is my dream to find that man who can be strong financially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically so that he might take care of us. It would not change the fact that I am smart, hard-working, and fully capable of supporting myself--that is not the true design of family! OK, I'll get off my soapbox! I really didn't mean to offend anyone. I believe there are great men out there who are great leaders and great providers. We women are often too demanding--beyond what we can reasonably expect. If we spent our lives seeing how we could support our husbands, and they did the same, marriages would last forever. But unfortunately, we tend to be more consumed with our own selves than our help mate. OK, back off my box! Have a great day!