Helloooo Everyone! Hope all is well!

I am writing a paper this afternoon on the causes of divorce.

Should have thought sooner to ask your opinions! I just need brief thoughts if any of you may have time.

Some of my thoughts are that divorce is more acceptable in todays society, lack of truly understanding your partner, lack of respecting partner and marriage, inability to communicate openly...

Thank you in advance!

Hugs,
Melissa!

Hi MJ. Good question. I think that marriage is entered into too lightly. People go into it thinking, if it doesn't work out, there's always a way out. The commitment factor of marriage being permanent is no longer prevalent. When things get hard, financial hardship, the realization that you don't "love" your partner and other stresses, people don't stick it out and persevere, giving it there all to make it work. Keep in mind it could only be one partner, that decides to take the easy way out.

JMO, I hope it helps with your paper.

How are you doing? Are you still dating that online guy? would love to hear about it. Talk to you later.

Well, I definitely don't think it is the easy way out. I think it has to do with impressions one spouse has of another and vice versa. So many go into marraige totally in love and then they see "the real" person. The real person was there all the time but either hid it or the spouse couldn't see it through the rose colored glasses. Reality of eachother's personalities and such shows up sooner or later in either case.

SueP, your right too. My first marriage, he was abusive and that I didn't know until I was married. I took my vows seriously and stuck it out for 5 years at which point I had to decide if I wanted to live or die. I chose to live and got divorced. My second marriage, in hindsight, he never loved me. He married me because of our child, the one thing I asked him not to do!

Hey Ladies! Thank you - I included both in my paper. I agree with you both.

Net, I have heard comments like: "Nothing is guaranteed and marriage is just a piece of paper," proving that people don't always intend to get married and stay married.

SueP, Not only do people fall in love with their perception of a person without knowing them, they also don't adapt to their spouses changing through aging. (Physical and mental changes.)

Society accepts divorce. I swear if I ever get married, I'm going to have an agreement that states: "If this marriage is deemed as repairable by a 'marriage counselor,' and you still opt for divorce, you must pay Melissa a X amount of dollars." lol I agree that there are acceptable reasons for divorce, infidelity, and any type of abuse. But I wish people would not take having children and marriage so lightly.

Net - - I visited my friend in his town a couple weeks after our first date. We both determined that the drive was too much! We are still friends and may see each other again sometime but are not dating or moving forward into a relationship.

What kind of statistics are there for this? Doesn't everyone that gets divorced need to put down a reason? I think that mine was "Irreconcilable Differences."

I bet more than half of them use that reason...

Later,
Bobby

Did you know that parents of multiples are 50% m ore likely to get divorced? (would have happened anyway in my case, sooner or later)