Hmmm, where to start.
I'm a single mom, divorced less than a year ago. And my situation is quite unique, her dad and i get along and he is very supportive financially and emotionally for us both.

At first, being single was wonderful. I enjoyed going out (when i had time to myself) and i really could enjoy myself cause i know my daughter was so well taken care of.

Recently, i began dating a guy younger than me (28) with no kids. The problem is, i'm having a very difficult time with the whole dating thing. I am going through the whole mother/single woman confusion thing and sometimes i just feel like giving up.

I am here cause i need help. I stayed home for 3 years to raise my daughter (she is now barely 4) and i believe i was a good mom. But now, i'm not so sure. I feel overwhelmed and think i'm sabottaging my current relationship. I think the more involved our relationship becomes the least i can handle being a mom. I can't seem to give the right priority to my responsibilities and find myself torn between being a mom and finding love. I am so confused. I have been given a second chance to do this all right and all i think im doing is ruining everything.

I know that im a mom first and that is my first priority but i am having such a hard time adjusting. Has anyone else felt the same, is this growing pain?

P.S. I would love to make new friends....i live in miami....thanks for listening...please help!

Well in my opinion:

Maybe you were not ready to date just yet. It was many years after my divorce before I dated and even then it was hard to adjust. It might do you some good to be on your own for a while and become reacquainted with yourself. If he loves you then he will support you in some alone time..

But this is just my opinion and like the saying says

�Opinions are like a**holes�. Every has one�

 sorry I did not mean to sound negative ..

Hi!

Funny you should say that, i was going to respond earlier but didnt have a chance to. I'm starting to understand that maybe I havent had enough time on my own (it hasnt even been a year since my divorce) and i think i knew i had dedicated and devoted so much time to my daughter (staying home for 3 years with her) that when i got divorced i just wanted to hurry up and find love since i was out of love for so long. But the first thing i should do is figure out this new life with my first love, my daughter. All other things will fall into place in due time. Thanks...

Hi there,
I think (and that always gets me into mischief) that maybe you are in the getting you feet wet again faze of your life. You know, wade around the pool a bit and if the water isn't right, go lay out for awhile. I agree with Onedad that time may be needed to find yourself now that you are single. I know that I am a comletly different person single that I was when I was with my ex. I also agree that if this lad cares for you, he will follow you to the deep end when you are ready. Good luck to you!
Becky

I think you have the right idea. Find yourself first and love will find you! I know being a single mom can seem lonely and sometimes depressing, but it isn't a permanent state of being. This too shall pass! Have faith in yourself and continue the great work with your daughter. You are very lucky to have such a supportive ex.