Ah we know what you meant - us ladies like to give you a hard time in and out of the labour ward
its just our way.

I think the labor of my daughter was harder on everyone but me! I had horrid back labor and almost flat-lined (bp dropped below 50). I was so exhausted I was oblivious and didn't have to really stay conscious...my mother and father...they had to stay reasonable and conscious!

I feel for you men that have to put up and be nice with us in there!

I don't feel for the men, they're the reason we end up there.

Still looking to hear stories from Big Bobby, Don, 2BD, and....all the other men whose names temporarily have escaped me.


In my case...I was responsible for the first one I wouldn't leave him alone. He begged me to find something else to do that day, b/c he was tired! LOL (borderline PC...if offended I'll edit.)

I feel sorry for anyone who puts up w/me when I'm moody!!!!!

Edit: Eve, just remember that the men on here...they aren't the ones who leave...they are the ones that were left. Don't be too hard on em!

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Originally posted by Evestar:
[qb] I don't feel for the men, they're the reason we end up there. [/qb]

My mom was my labor coach, and I actually cussed at her. I have never done that, and never would again, but your hormones get all out of whack! Half the time we don't know what we are saying or doing, so I feel for the men that actually have the guts to go into the delivery room. My hat's off to you all. Besides, they aren't the only reason we're in there. We had our part in it all too.

Where are the rest of the guys? Are there only 2 that are willing to step up to the plate?

Not always true Eve. We all end up here because of fate or karma and for different reasons. One who denies their mistakes are bound to repeat them. We are here to change for the better because of those mistakes.

All of us must learn to face our demons. Sharing with you ladies helps me deal with my demons.

Stay with us Eve. Don't lose yourself to your demons.

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Originally posted by Evestar:
[qb] I don't feel for the men, they're the reason we end up there. [/qb]

hmmmm
I suppose your were joking...

I was joking. My dad was with me the whole time, I asked he did. He spent hours rubbing my back. I was in labor for 2 days. He took 2 weeks vacation to help me when I came home from the hospital.
I didn't mean it as end up, single parented, I meant it as I would not have gone through labor if a man had not been involved at some point.

that's OK, Evestar. I had my speech about 'common responsibility', and 'it takes 2...' all ready to go
Sorry.
Your Dad must be great. Actually, I refused to let my Mom come or even help me afterwards, but if my Dad had been alive and if he had offered...anyways, that's another story.

Still, I think it must be horrible for the guys to go into the delivery room with the woman. And that is why so few are posting here, it just wasn't such a great thing at all for them. And I don't blame them. I would never ever ask a man (or anyone) to come with me, more, I would not want them to come. I think it shows plenty of dedication if they wait outside (or take care of the older kids at home), and the nurses, midwives and doctors are surely greatful if they stay outside, so they can do their work properly.MHO.

Hmmmm...yup..had to remember..I chose the man that put me in the labor room...still don't feel sorry for him (that particular one) because he wasn't there for the birth. I do feel sorry for the men that are there during the labor..and that was to what I referred orignially

My first daughter. She was born in the nearby Air Base Hospital. Well nearby to me now, but was an hour's drive from where we were living at the time. Her mother was there for 2 weeks for premature labor, yes 2 weeks of labor with several different things attempted to stop labor since it was 3 months ahead of schedule. For those 2 weeks I drove down to visit on several occasions on top of my 70 hour work week. The night before my day off, I went drinking with some coworkers after work, and well let's just say I overdid it. I was pretty hung over the next morning, and was quite slow getting myself moving to take that drive to see mom again. I did manage to get myself to the hospital, and as I get into the maternity ward, they were just beginning to take mom into the delivery room they could no longer stop the labor. So I quickly suited up and followed them in and within 15 minutes my oldest daughter was born. A whopping 2 lbs 5.5 oz teeny tiny thing. They had to do a lot of checking on her healthwise, before we could hold her. But somehow she was developed enough/no major issues that we did get to hold her for a very short time. Very frightening that small. She was still kept in the hospital for close observation and came home a couple months later at a whopping 4 1/2 lbs.

My second daughter, I was not there for. There was much drama involved with that one, and so I have no story to tell of her birth.

My youngest daughter, even though me and her mom were not together already, I did have pretty regular contact with during the pregnancy. Took her to the hospital in the wee hours of the morning and was able to watch that daughter born as well. "Routine" birth I guess you could say, but still an amazing thing to be there for.

Can I just say, my hat is off to the ladies. What you go through during childbirth is something I could only try to imagine from watching first hand. No pain I have felt in my day, could compare. Of that I have no doubt.

Don, what an amazing story. 3 daughters all happy and healthy! I hope more of the guys here have the courage to step up and share. We love to hear things from that vantage point!

The motivation to get through it (with baby alive and well) is very high for the woman, and with the hormones and sometimes the drugs helping...
All I am saying is, I don't think we need special recognition for being the ones giving birth. It's just our job. Not sure if I make sense. You men would do it too if you had to. It's not as if it was a choice, we just have to and then we might as well try and do it well, to save our children's lives, and our own as well.
It's worth it, is what I am saying as well.

Hey everyone,

Been off the boards for a while so doing a quick catch up before chaos strikes again. Had to toss in my experience. A couple of things come to mind when I think back on my daughter�s birth...
One thing was I ended up gaining more weight during pregnancy than my wife, think I beat her by 3 pounds or so.

Also remember heading down the night before to the hospital at 2 am which turned out to be a false alarm. My wife asked the doctor if there was anything she could do to hurry things along and he mentioned walking so at 4 am she�s doing sprints up and down the hospital corridors with me half asleep trying to keep up with her. Finally went home to bed and ended up coming back that afternoon for the real thing.

I remember during her labor wondering who the joker was who came up with the idea of
effleurage. I have asked around and every dad I�ve talked to since has gotten the same response I got when I tried it � �DON�T TOUCH ME!!!!!�

The birth itself went without any problems and quite honestly, the only thing I remember is the moment they handed her to me. I do still remember the flood of emotions � absolute joy that this little person we�ve waited for the past nine months was actually here in the flesh, absolute terror that now we�re responsible for her, absolute relief that it was over, and absolute awe over this little miracle of life � feelings I think you all can relate to.

Without a doubt, one of the greatest and most humbling moments of my life.

Don - Three healthy girls. I cann't beleive how small your 1st was. She must have fit in the palm of your hand.

Larry - Thanks for sharing.

You all have made me see, that its just as emotional for the men as the women when the baby first appears.