I am 26 weeks pg with my third child, (my x's second) it is the first child we share together, and 2 weeks ago, i called it off. I was tired of his games, his drinking, pot. ect ect. I don't hate the man, but i simply don't love him any more.we fought like crazy at the end, and i felt it was unhealthy for my other two children to witness this BS. He simply did not want to grow up. Now that we are no longer together he is trying despertly to get back w/ me, but i stand firm, i cannnot have peopel coming in and outt of my life, for my childrens sake. I told him I will always be his friend, and we have been friends for several years. We broke off and ok terms, nobody is mad, although hes trying 2 get back.
The other night he told me he would like to be in the delivery room when our daughter is born. Yet, wehn we were together he talked about how he wasnt sure he could do it, cause he couldnt handle hte nastyness of it.
which, was fine by me, cause im so crabby when it all happens anyways, i could careless whos there, lol.
I dunt know if i relaly want him there during the "nasty" part, but at the same time, dunt know if i want to deprive him of that, his x deprived him of everyhting with his first daughter (in a understandable reason though, he was worse w/ alch and drugs then)
Do you think it would be mean of me to ask him to wait n the other room until shes born?
I told him after shes born he can come over ANYTIME (resonaably) to see his daughter, he came over the other night and felt her kick for the first time. i think im being as fair as i can. any1 got any advice?