igot pregnant, the bio dad left and disappeared as soon as i told him. four months pregnant i came down with kidney stones.SPent a week in the hospital to come home and was sent right back for another week. Was on every antibiotic, and pain med, and my body was under so much stress. Got cleared up a few weeks later. Came down with a horrible pregnancy rash, skin was so dry and irratated!! That clear up. spent the last 2 months going back and forth to the hospital for premature labor and to stop it.
almost had to have a c-section scheduled due to my stress and one of the later thingsyou can contract, toximia maybe?i was on the verge of coming down with it.
Went to the hospital at 3 in the morn on the 19th of jan(2001) was in labor for 18 hours.
was hooked up to every machine thinkable. blood pressure, contractions, epidural. had 3 monitors placed inside me to detect the baby's heart beat and contrations cuz the outside wasnt working. had a catheter to use the pottyLOL at 16 hours my labor stopped completely. at 17 hours doc was prepping me for c-section. they decided to check my bladder and everything one last time.realized my bladder needed to be emptied. 20 min later i was pushing!!heard the doctor ask for the scissors for my episiotomy. after 30 min of pushing, ihad the most beautiful girl in the whole wide world. never in my wildest dreams could i have imagined i could create such a loving, beautiful gift from the heavens.and relazied all the pain i went through the whole time was well worth it. even the amount of pain from the episiotomy and hemrhoids after wards.
she is my life savor and dream come true, i wouldnt change a thing.

now its time for your stories...........

Why not add my story? Let's see... Got pregnant at 17, told my at the time boyfriend and he said he'd be with me the whole way. Well most of us have learned that's a bunch of crap! lol Come to find out he wants me to have an abortion but I didn't want to so I kept putting it off until after our trip to Europe with a group of people. He cheated on me with this girl we broke up, got back together three months later after not talking, a month before our son was due. I stayed in school and worked through the whole thing. (I think being so active really helped...note for next time huh? =} ) He wasn't very involved but we called him the day after Thanksgiving when I started to go into labor. Did the whole wait an hour at home thing to make sure it was real. Got the hospital and when they checked me I was at a 7/8, but I think the nurse lied to the anisthesologist (sp?) because I still got an epidural about an hour later. My son's dad got there right before I was given a wonderful gift...the wonderful epidural =), went to get a soda, my doctor came to break my water and then I had to push! Three pushes later my little boy was born late in the afternoon. It only took 4 1/2 hours! Not too bad! Now 16 months later I spend all the time I can with my angel....and dad? Well he's here when he is.

I found out i was pregnant at 17 years old. in jan os 2002. i was a senior in high school. at first i thought i had to get an abortion cause i was too afraid to tell mom. my sons father said what they all say. ill be there no matter what. for the first 2 1/2 mo i couldnt keep any food down(NOTHING) then by my third mo i was sleeping like somebody drugged the hell out of me. my sons father was still there at this point. evrything was going just fine up until 2 wks b4 i delivered. i had to get about 3 fetal stress tests. on sept 10th i went to the hospital only to have them tell me they were sending me home. i went back on sep 12th at about 4am. i tried to be tough and not get an epidural. but i was fooiling myself. after i got it i found out later that my b/p went down dangerously low. at one point the tube to my epidural got disconnected and the pain unberable. by this time they were giving me pitocin. after about 45 min of pushing my son was finally here. afterwards i realized i need ALOT of stitches because my son's hand was up near his face and really tore me bad! but once i looked into his eyes i didnt care one bit about any of the pain. it was all worth it

we almost died

i found out i was pregnant in 2001, 4 months after i turned 16. Me and the baby's father broke up cause he wasn't ready to grow up yet. i was doing good until my 5th month. i had no morning sickness, and wasn't huge yet. i was 115 lbs. when i got preg. and now i was about 120 lbs. when my 5th month hit i ballooned up. i started gaining like 12 lbs. a week, i was retaining so much fluid, you couldn't tell that i had ankles. i looked on the internet to find something out and i found an article on toximia. i knew i had it, i had all of the symptoms....i told my doctor, and she just laughed and said i was getting fat. well, i believed her, i had never been pregnant before.....anyways....i kept getting bigger, and my blood pressure kept getting higher. on feb. 14, 2002, i went in for a check up and when i weighed in i was 190 lbs!!!! she checked my blood pressure and it was way too high, so she sent me to the hospital to be monitered. i was only 7 1/2 months along. well, my b/p didn't get any better, so at about 5 pm they decided to induce labor because they found out that i had HELLP syndrome too, that is where your blood gets too thin and your liver enzyms get too low (liver failer if they get too low) well, my liver held out. at 5 pm they put something in my cervex to make it dialate and i was already 1 cm dialated and the baby was dropped(i think he knew what was going on!) i stayed on a moniter, and at 5 am, they put me on an i.v. drip to start contractions. they also had to give me magnesium sulfate to prevent me from having seizures, this was because of the toximia. (needless to say, my doc was wrong, i did have it) they also gave me 3 antibioticsand a pain medicine. the magnesium sulfate makes you hot from the inside out and you feel like you have the flu. i slept through most of the labor. at about 11 am, the doc came and broke my water. at about 3 pm the nurse ran in the room and told my mom and grandma, and aunt that if she said get out to do it. the baby's heart rate had dropped to 0 and my blood pressure was 121/211 (normal is 75/120)
what happed is that there was no fluid in me and when i had a contraction, the umbilical cord would get pinched. the nurse put fluid back in me. at about 5:30 pm the baby was coming. i had started to push while one of the nurses tried to find my doc. noone could find her. another doc had to deliver my son. i had a hard time pushing because of the epideral. if my blood hadn't been so thin i would have had a c-section. i would have bled to death if i had had one. anyway, i had to wait through 6 strong contractions before i could push again. when he was finally born, i thought he was dead. he was white and limp and he didn't cry. but he wasn't dead, just 6 weeks premature and he had magnesium sulfate in his system. i barely got to hold him before he was rushed to the nicu. my beautiful son was born aon feb. 15, 2002! his father still wasn't really around.....it was an occasional phone call. well, the next day they released me, reluctantly, and i went home. about 30 minutes after i got home, the hospital was calling me to tell me that my son was being transferd to texas children's hospital. i went up there and stayed with him as much as i could. his lungs weren't developed enough, so they had to shoot serfactin into his lungs. he also has pectus excavatium?( a caved in chest, though hardly noticable) well, three weeks later he came home. his dad was coming around and falling in love with him. six weeks after he was born, he went back to the hospital. his tummy was big, hard, and blue and he was lifeless. well, after a week in the hospital, we founf out that he had Hirschprungs desiease. that's where part of his colon didn't have the cells to make it contract and push the waste out of his body. well, we found out that he had to have surgury. we waited about 2 months, and he went back in the hospital for a week and had his surgury( and was circumsized) he had 1/4 of his colon removed and part of his rectum. now he is 15 monthes old and the sweetest baby! he was born at 4.5 lbs.....went down to 3.5 lbs....and, now at 15 months, he is 30 in. long and 28 lbs! he is big and healthy and you'd never guess that he was a preemie. i love him and wouldn't change anything for the world!
if anyone has had a similar experience, i would love to talk to you. my aol screen name is cateyecutie69, send me an im or e-mail, i will reply. take care

My turn. I got pregnant Feb 2002. I didn't find out I was pregnant until April. I told the father. He told me he will he will support me in what ever dicision I make. wich I later found out that meant he will support me if I had an abortion. Then we didn't talk for a couple of months. he went to Kuwait came back didn't tell me he was back . I just happen to see him one day. we got back on speaking term. then he started avoiding me. I went into labor he didn't come that day.I was in labor for 15 hrs. pushed for two. then they still had to use forcepts. it took them about an hour to stitch me up. He came to the hospital the next day. he came to see her for about 2 weeks then he just stopped. he got out of the military moved 2 hrs away.he didn't see her from the end of Nov to the beg. of Apr my daughter is now 5 months old and to this day his parents still don't know about her. www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jazmyn_i/

I found out that I was pregnant in April of 2000, a week later I found out that my pap came back bad, ended up being cancer of the cervix. I quit my job due to doctors orders and stayed a home with the exception of frequent visits to the doctor and at 5 months pregnancy the father lost his 5th job in a year due to being drunk so I left and moved my daughter and myself home with my parents. My daughter was born two weeks early, my blood pressure was sky high and I was hurting all over so the doctor induced labor and my baby was born exactly 24 hours later. I had a histeroctomy 4 months later. By the way the Father does not have hardly any thing to do with his daughter, he calls and says that he will come see her over the weekend and then he don't show and this happens every weekend but I still keep every weekend open so that if he does show up he can see just how sweet and wonderful his doughter is, and also so that he can see what he is missing.

wow, and i thought 18hours was bad!!
thanks for sharing allyour stories everyone!
now we should make a collection of everyones stories and give them to all the 13 year olds etc, that want a baby so bad and they wont stop till they have one.they all think its peaches and cream!! thanks for sharing everyone!!1

I hope i didnt offend anyone with my 13 year old comment, ithink ive been watching too many talk shows! but alot of young girls i know are trying to get pregnant because they beleive its a bed of roses and fun.....

apologies!!!

I wasn't offended it's true, or maybe I watch too many talk show too.

ok heres mine.. I was 18 years old when I found out I was preg. my boyfriend at the time 23. Health wise my preg. went fine. I was depressed for the last 6 months of my preg. due to my ex. he spent absoulty no time with me and was hanging out with other girls. always telling me that I was cheating on him.. never went to my doc. apts or came around. I was 2 weeks late having my daughter. I had to be induced. I went to the hospital at 5:30am and had a beauitful baby girl at 9:52pm. In that time I was passing blood clots the size of plums, couldnt get out of bed because I was bleeding too heavily. My blood pressure sky-rocketed along with my temperature. The babys heart rate dropped down into the 20's from the 160's.. only pushed through 3 contractions though so I was lucky about that. My ex was there for her birth and the day after. Me and the baby had to stay at the hospital extra days because of the fact that I had a fever during delivery. He was supposed to come back and stay with me but never did.. didn't hear from him for about a week. He didnt sign her birth certificate because he missed the deadline because he never came back. Come to find out he was in another town for a "spring break thing" with his "homegirl" who later (2 weeks later) became his girlfriend. much stress and grief and still going through it. But I beleive things will get better someday (I hope). God Bless

okay, here is my sad depressing tale. a month before my seventeenth birthday i was raped by my bestfriend's boyfriend. a few months later i found out that i was pregnant. i decided to keep the baby and i now have the most wonderful daughter in the world. i am now 19 and while being a single mom is hard it has a joyous side also. my labor was pretty uneventful. my water broke at about 1:30 am on August 15, 2002 after a pretty quick and painful labor...i had no meds.... my beautiful daughter Jaidelyn made her arrival at 9:35 am..... i have had no contact with the friend since the rape...but the boyfriend still manages to harass me on campus whenever he sees me....neither knows that i had a baby....and this friend is still with him even after i told her what happenned....but i'm over it...and just looking forward to life with my child.Jaidelyn she is now 9 months old

thanks for sharing rose and lichinadoll.
Dont feel bad , as youve read and being here at the board weve all been abandoned by the EX, wether were mother or a single father.
As for you lichinadoll, it takes great strength to go through something so horrible, so i applaud you on that.Babies really are a blessing no matter what event it took for them to get here. I guess your freind really wasnt your freind,sorry to hear that. You really shouldve pressed charges, but im sure you had your reasons.CONGRATS on the new bundles of joy,
if you need anything feel free to email me.=)
Thanks for sharing your stories.........
im sure well help someone.
Lesley

I am 19 years old and I have 3 children. I have 2 sons who are 2 & 4 years old and a daughter who is 6 months. When I first got pregnant I was 15 years old. Everyone was against me and said I was too young and that I wouldn't make it. My mother put me out, so my sons father and I moved out together. The following year I got pregnant again, still determined to prove everyone wrong, we decided to keep our second son. That year in August , my sons father was shot and killed while my oldest son was there. I came home to a dead boyfriend and a crying child who was screaming "Daddy, wake up!" Pregnant again, and with a year old already I struggled to make it on my own. I maintained finishing high school, working and caring for my children along with paying bills and the babysitter. As the years passed I had no one to help me. I was young I wanted to do everything everyone else my age was doing like go to the club, go to parties...just have fun! As far as friends, I had none. No one felt as if they wanted to be tied down with me and my children. I constantly had people looking down on me, and critizing me becuase I didn't meet up to their expectations. After graduating from high school, I enrolled in college. I wasn't going to let anything hold me back from my dreams. So I maintained a job during the day and going to school at night. In the meantime I met a wonderful guy, who swept me off my feet and accepted & loved me and my sons. He spoiled us rotten, he gave us everything and anything we wanted! He later moved in his Grandmother's house. He made it a lot easier on me, the house was paid for, so he paid all the utilities and expenses. He paid my tuition and for books. He brought me a new car and gave me what we joked and called an allowance. Every Friday we'd go shopping for the kids and every Saturday we went shopping for us, everyday was like Christmas! He told me to put the money I made in the bank so one day neither of us would have to work. During my second year in college I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd child. I refuse to get rid of any of my gifts from God, so I was ready to be a mother for the 3rd time with a baby girl. I was delighted but at the same time scared. He was so happy, he asked me to marry him. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and the kids, and that we made him feel complete. I always wondered where he'd get all this money from, he would just say his grandmother left it to him; but there was no way there was any money left the way we spent. When my daughter was about three months old, we went on a trip as he did every month, but this time we went as a family. While in Morrocco, he sent me and the kids home with our bags. When he returned home he had more bags. I didn't guestion him because I thought maybe it was our mistake. That night he left out with those bags, and never returned. Early the next morning the police were at our house with a search warrant. The Feds had been watching him for over a year; they knew everything about me, my kids and my sons father! They explained to me that my fiance' was a kingpin and had been in charge of over 6 huge drug operatorations from Morroco. He was charged and sentenced to 32 years in a federal prison with 22 suspended. Now I am a single parent with 3 children. As far as finances go...I'm okay; let's just say we put a lot of money away for a rainy day! And my kids...they don't want for nothing but a father! Knowing that my sons will never know or see their father hurts like hell; as for my daughter she's too young to understand what happended to her father; and by the time she does he'll stil be behind bars! You think you know but you have no idea!

ok.. im a new mommy. When i found out that i was pregnant (October 10th, 2002) i was scared. I felt alone beacuse I'd never actually dated the babys father. WHen i told him he questioned whether it was his. This upset me so i told him to just leave me alone. This must have convinced him that i was sure it was his, and he called me continually for 3 weeks to tell me to get an abortion. That he would pay for it. That it was the right thing. He kept trying to make it seem like it would be good for me. WHen he was only covering his own ass.
I finally had enough of the stalking so my friend told him that i had had the abortion and FINALLY his constant calls stopped. 2 months later he wanted to hang out "like old times". I agreed but found out he just wanted to get me wasted and hookup. Well this wasnt happening because I obviously wasnt going to harm my baby by drinking. So i went home. About when i was 6 months pregnant he shows up again all friendly "like old times" but really only wants the same thing. I told him i was still pregnant. He said he knew and that he was scared. We had a nice talk. After that i didnt hear from him again. My due date was june 22nd, 2003.. that day came and went. my doctor decided to induce. So i went to the hospital on june 28th. I sat on a Pitocin IV for 2 1/2 days. Finally on Monday at about 2:30 pm. i felt contrations worse than i had before. So i asked them to check me. i was only 3cm :-( the contractions felt so bad i didnt understand. 20 minutes went by and the pain had doubled. I begged them to check me, and after 10 mins of arguing they finally did. I was 4cm. Well, at least it was progress. So they decided to break my water. Thats when things really started happening. The doctors and nurses left and only my mom and stepdad remained. NOw the pain was unbearable, i called for a nurse to check again. Only 20 minutes had passed again... But she did anyway. I was at 6cm. If i wanted the epidural it was now or never. I begged for it. and the 10 minutes it took for the anestisologist to get there felt like eternity. Thank god i did. i felt so much better and more able to enjoy my babys birth. My doctor was called and NICU was also called because they had found meconium when they broke my water. So to be on the safe side the would be there. For some raeson 15 minutes or so passed and my nurse felt she should check me again. because i was progressing so quickly. I was already at 10 cm. Ready to push! All the doctors rushed in, and my mom was right there by my side. 5 minutes and 4 pushes later my baby boy Jacob Alexander was born. I was so happy to finally meet him. His dad doesnt even know he was born. I tried to get a hold of him. i waited till i felt better. 63 stiches doesnt make u feel so hot. But he was at the gathering of the juggalos in Ohio. No point in fighting on the phone when hes in Ohio. He may be a loser but he gave me one thing that i'll cherish forever. My beautiful son!