okay so i'm three months pregnant, and i have a boyfriend, only the baby isn't his. I'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend, it'll break his heart and he'll leave me. and i absolutely cannot lie and tell him the baby is his. the baby's father is white, with blonde hair and blue eyes. my boyfriend is inuit ... black hair, brown eyes. I'm white, Grey eyes and red hair. I'm pretty sure the baby won't look like my boyfriend but i really don't want to break his heart and it's too late for an abortion. He wasn't my boyfriend when i had gotten pregnant. . . and the baby's dad has a LOT of money. haha. i'm sooooo confused!

YOU HAVE TO BE COMPLETELY HONEST WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, BECAUSE IF YOU LIE AND HE FINDS OUT IT WILL BE 100 TIMES WORSE.

EXPLAIN THAT YOU TWO WEREN'T TOGETHER WHEN IT HAPPENED SO YOU DIDN'T CHEAT ON HIM. IF HE REALLY CARES FOR YOU HE WILL STICK IT THROUGH.. IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME AND HE MAY NEED TO TAKE A BREATHER, BUT DON'T LIE TO HIM

Please be honest, you may be suprised of the outcome. I would tell your baby's dad first and see how he reacts, then tell your boyfriend the truth. If he splits the second he finds out then you'll know he really wasn't meant to be with you through better or worse. Good luck with your baby and congratulations!
Jakesmommy

You should tell him the truth because it is not fair to let him believe and fall in love with a child to later find out it's all a lie. That is cruel. He'll hate you. You would be selfish not letting him know. Pour out your heart and see what happens. He may leave you, leave and come back eventually, or stay by your side. I wish you the best!

I think that you should go ahead and tell him. If he wasnt your boyfriend when you got pregnant. I will break his heart more if you continue to make him think its his child.

Tell him the truth!! Always be honest. You didn't cheat on him, so he can't pull out that card. Like a pp said, if he can't handle it and bails, it was not meant to be. There are men out there who will be with a single mom. And the real father needs to know too....you can't keep him in the dark about it. It isn't fair to him and most of all it isn't fair to your child. Good luck, and I know you'll make the right choice.

BTW, on average...21% of men are raising a child they did not father...out of that 21% only 4% know the truth

Have you told the father of the child that you're pregnant? You have no reason to keep the truth from either person. If the person you're with right now loves you then they'll accept what happened.

Hi, I would like to advice you to tell him the truth, if you keep it secret you won't even be lying to your boyfriend but to your child also, something so important needs to be told, your should be supportive if he indeed loves you, if he leaves you will realise he was not worth of your love and trust then.

you cant live alie forever, so it's better not to live one at all. Tell them the truth. I know youre scared, but you need to be responsible and do the right thing. Tell them

Iam in total agreement with everyone else.Be honest to your boyfriend.But most of all be honest with yourself, can you really live a lie and have a massive skeleton in your closet for years ,that is slowly tearing you apart as your child gets older and wiser.
But, in times to come you and your boyfriend may argue and you may mention it in the heat of the moment.I think at that time it would hurt the most.So be honest with all concerned as you weren't together at the time of conception.You will have nothing to lose by being honest and up front about it.


Regards,

Mark

I agree with them all. You need to tell him. If not anything can happen you see it all the time when a child is hurt or sick and blood is drawn. That is a tramatic time anyway don't add to it by letting him find out he isn't the father.
You will be a much happier Mom and person knowing you did the right thing.
Good Luck,
cjfs mom

I agree that you should tell him the truth and tell the father the truth too. If you weren't with your bf at the time you got pregnant then it shouldn't be that bad right? Good luck!

I MIGHT be wrong, but I think I remember from college genetics class that two people with recessive genes (blonde or red hair and blue or gray eyes) will always have a baby with those traits. If you don't tell him, he will probably suspect something anyway.......unless he is really naive and bad at math. Just trying to be funny, not critical. I was in the same situation and you should ALWAYS do whats best for the baby. I promise you, you won't regret losing your boyfriend if thats whats best for the baby.