I have a new member to my family as of 7/17/07. I am feeling alittle baby blues but I hear it's completely normal. I am just feeling really sad that my youngest, 21 months, isn't my "baby" anymore. That maybe I have cheated him somehow. I also feel I won't do a good enough job dispersing my love equally to all the kiddo's. Anyone else feel this way at the beginning??

Congratulations on the new addition.

This can be an ongoing issue, and is a something you will need to deal with from here on out.

One of the problems is no matter how hard you try to love them all the same, they might not see it the same way.

Don't worry about it too much just do the best you can. You might talk to your daughter about how the younger ones need more of you time but that does not mean you love her less.

Take care of your self.

Congrats devnew! What's your baby's name? I also gave birth three weeks ago, and I did have postpartum blues for at least a week. Now I am sleep-deprived, trying to adjust to the new schedule. Anyway, nice to see you back again in here.

Congratulations!

Oh don't worry about feeling like you cheated your other son. Your children will do what brothers and sisters do best later on......that is tell you "you don't love me as much as _________". So, enjoy the silence before they talk

you have beautiful babies, surrounded by love, it will just keep on entensifying and getting better in every way. your oldest is special because of being your first,only one gets that honor.....peace to all

Congradulations!!!! He's a very handsome little fella.

I think what you're feeling is all normal. So far I only have one child so I haven't had to try and figure out how to make sure they all feel loved.

I agree with Dale and say you should not worry about it too much and just do teh best you can.

Congrats!! He is adorable!! I don't have any advice but I am sure I'll be in your shoes in 2 months. Mine will be 21 months apart as well. I'm sure it's completely normal and you do have enough love to share, it will just take a little adjusting at first.

Now that it's like a week later, how are things going?

Are you feeling any better?

growing up my mother would always so "Of course, i love you differently! You are different people and need different things. That doesn't mean i love anyone more or less than another one."


although totally not true... I'm her favorite

My mom would always tell me I'm her favorite and then tell my sister she's her favorite and then tell my brother he's her favorite, lol.

I had the same feelings when Serenity, my youngest was born. Her and my son are the same age apart... 21 months. I definitely know what you are feeling. It passes. I always give each of my children some one-on-one time with me while the other is napping, or playing in their room. Serenity goes to bed before Austin, so usually I get my time with Austin once she goes to bed before it's time for his. And I make my time for Serenity during Austin's naptime because he sleeps longer than she does. It works out well and both feel they are equally loved, which they are.

And even though Austin isn't the real "baby" anymore, he will always be my baby, just as your firstborn will always be the same to you.

Congratulations by the way... everything will work out. Keep us posted.

I am feeling a whole lot better about equally giving each child my attention and love... I tell ya those hormones are no joke!!!

you have beautiful children, I see where they get it...have a wonderful day

Hi Devnew, I'm a new mom, but I only have one for now. Something I've asked several of my moms that have multiple kids is how they divide their time. What I was told was pretty helpful. The told me to let someone else feed the baby once in a while, which will allow you some play time with the other kids. Spend some mommy and me time alone with each indivual child. I know time is an issue however you have to make the time so no one feels left out. I only have one an I work and go to school full time but in between my studies and work I find time for my daughter. Good luck and CONGRATS!