I had my son 9 1/2 months ago. His father and I were engaged and he called off the wedding a week before. He started dating someone else when I was 7 months pregnant. After that he had no involvement in the pregnancy. He then served me papers for a paternity test. He refused to take any infant care classes and CPR. And left the hopital 2 hours after he was born. To make a long story short, He went two months without seeing him and never paid me a dime. We had a temp. hearing with our judge and he granted him 3 hours on the first and third weekend with the supervision of his sister-in-law. He granted me full physical and legal custody. He has since then married the girl that he started dating and we have court on NOV.4. I am trying to prove that it is not in the best interest of this child to go overnight with him until he is older. He has been calling him by a different name and trying to call his new wife, mommy. He hasn't gone to any doctor's visits, and never calls to check on him during the week. He wants joint legal custody and full weekend overnight visitations. My son is still being breastfed and has never been away from me for over 4 hours. Does anyone have any advice? PLEASE HELP!!!

im really not sure how much i can be for you but ill try to give the best advice for you. im 21 yrs old and im 7 1/2 months pregnant with my first child. my babys father hasnt been involved at all during the beginning but is starting to come around. now being thats my first time dealing with all of this and doing it alone i have looked into almost everything i possible could. now i have a friend who worked at a womens clinic and one of the girls there had the sort of the same situation as you .. and if i remember correctly they said he could not have overnights because the chils was breast feeding and i hope i remember that correctly because that is what i was gonna use if my babys father decided to pull something like that. so sorry i couldnt have been much more help all i can say is try a search engine and start punching things in thats how i go about gettin info and good luck hun!

I'm so sorry to hear what happened with you and your ex. Unfortunately, if he wants to be a real jerk on this, he can ask the judge to have you pump milk for the baby and store it in the fridge for his overnight visits. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but you need to know the truth. I don't know how active a parent he has been since the baby was born, but if he doesn't spend much time with the baby and/or know the baby's medical history, especially if he has medical problems, let the judge know that. The judge might be more inclined to keep the custody arrangement as it is. I looked into this alot when I was pregnant with my son. I didn't want my son's father to be able to come get him when he was 2 and have him overnight. My son is asthmatic and has tons of allergies, including some to foods, and his father knows nothing about them. Letting the judge know your stand can't hurt so long as you present it in a way that doesn't make you seem like you are trying to deprive him of his right to know and spend time with his child. Hope this helps. -Jennifer