i just found out not long ago that im pregnant, im currently bout 7 weeks pregnant, and today my boyfriend is hopping on a buss to mesa az.
honestly im scared. and everyones doubting me. im doubting me. i jus am scared i guess. i dont know. no one understands.

Perfectly normal to feel scared. I was too and i am now five months.. You must find something to confide in. Whether it be a person or something like this. These people here are wonderful very helpful. Since he has left, you are going to be alright. Things will get better. Your decision is now where you want to go from here..The goverment has plenty of financial aid situations, and states have programs for single parents. Doesn't hurt to look. Plus if you have support from your family that is a plus. Friends also another big plus. Don't let someone change your mind if you have it set. This is your child and your decision. But advice is never a bad thing either. That's why they make places like this. Keep in mind now you are thinking for two. Be safe and blessed

thank you.
i guess im scared.. i didnt expect him to leave so sudenly. i dont know. im moving home. i need the emotional support

Honey, I feel what you are going thru and I completely understand. My daughter is 3 now and has seen her father 2 in her life. I got pregnant on a vacation in JA and I didn't reunite with the father of my child until she was 10 months old. And I had a wonderful support system between my parents and siblings. And you will find out that people will be there for you, you just have to get past the point of feeling sorry and scared, and be strong for your baby. And there will be days where you feel like the whole world is going to swallow you up and you look at your child and think of all the things that you have gone thru and how much you have accomplished, and then you will be proud. But let him hop on that bus, and just remember what goes around comes around, and the bad that people put out will always come back sooner or later...peace and blessings

I agree with them, it is perfectly normal to feel scared. I remember the day I found out I was pregnant to the last detail, it was one of the scariest days of my life. I was living an hour and a half away from home and terrified that I wouldn't be able to keep my child. I remember I took the test at 10 in the morning slept until 5 that night got something to eat and went back to sleep until 7. then i cried all night long, I talked to a friend on the phone that had just had a baby two months earlier and she reassured me that I could do it. Once I told my mom and she didn't kill me, lol (for some reason I thought she was going to) and she told me she'd support me, I then felt so much better. But really it all gets easier with time, the more you read about pregnancy and once you go to the doctor visits, it becomes more real and more exciting. Sorry this is so long, but good luck. I wish you the best and I'm here if you need to talk to someone.

everything will be fine, i promise! ive been there! i am there! my son is now 18 months old.i have made it this far, and i have no doubt that i wont make it all the way! its going to be hard, there is nothing you can do to make it not hard. BUT, the day your child is brought into this world, everything will change, i PROMISE! you will have a totally new outlook on life. you will have a new reason to wake up every morning. your child will change your life dramatically, but for the better! i am only 21 years old, and i feel on top of the world. granted, i dont have many friends, or a boyfriend- but you dont need them! im sure you have family that will be there every step of the way! feel free to email me if youd like. im sure i have plenty i can help you with. and advise to keep your head up.

thanks everyone.
its nice to know ya aint alone sometimes.
went to dr due date is march 18th
me and x are keeping in close contact via email, i promised to update him as everything arises.
and even if he doesnt want hte information, or doesnt care. i will continue to send it for the fact i want to be ablet o look my child in the eye and say "i tried"
thanks for your support!
always
mel

That's Right!! You tried and don't give up!! I know it can be hard but hang in there, I'm a single mother of twins, the father never even met them yet, I called him to let him know they we're born & I also went to his work to bring him pictures and he didn't even care, he didn't ask their weight or names even. The way I look at it, it is his lost & he has no idea what he is missing, they are precious & I love them and that love for them is what keeps me going. I am taking him to court and all, just because I'm not going to lie to my twin girls when they get older, I will tell them the truth and I tried & I'm still trying & if it happends that they ask me "why doesn't daddy love us" I will not tell them that daddy doesn't love them, I will simply tell them that mommy loves you more! That's all that matters. I still get my moments where I cry thinking, how can he do this to them, what have they done to deserve this, they didn't do anything & they deserve to have a father. He wants to hurt me, he's not hurting me because I can care less about him, especially after what he put me threw..he is however hurting me in a different way, because when i look at them I can't help to think, how will I tell them when they ask about him.... I'm doing what I can, I will hang in there and it does get easyer as they get older & my twins are now 7 months and it's easyer then it was before. They bring joy to my life & I thank god for my precious little angels... I wish you all the best, note that your not the only one that is going threw emotions, be strong & you'll get threw this, don't give up!

Tl

well, i talked to the father yesterday
and even though we arent going to be together, he wants to be a part of babys life says will do all he can. and i hope hes right. im moving soon. and we will have many miles between us. but if he wants to make it work, he will try. i know i sure will!

well i can tell u this much..when i found out i was 5 weeks pregnant (18 years old) i told my sons father n u know what he said....? he told me to get an abortion. my son is now 7 months old n ive been doing it all by myself.I dont regret having him on my own. your child will b better off without him. R ur parents there for u? im very fortunate. my parents have been there for me since day one. i believe that u can do it. u dont need him. it'll be very hard but u'll get through it. Good luck n if u need to chat wit me hit me up on aim/aol xoprb143xo...my name is linda

I was a teenage mom, I have been there and god knows that I was terrified even to tell my parents. And just to give you a bit of my story ... my daughter's father is MIA. But Thank god for my parents help at first. I managed to to get an assoiciates in nursing. It may have taken longer than expected but I did it. I have been out on my own with my daughter by the time I was 21. I got married with a jerk at 28 and left him after three years. I have my own career, my own house and with no ones help. I only can thank my parents for helping me out at first with my daughter. Till this day, I never needed financial help from no man even when I got married. I still do it on my own. My daughter is a straight A student and I am helping her with college papers now and I am also going back to college myself to complete my Masters. So, don't let anyone tell you you can't do it on your own because I did. Granted every child needs a father but remember this a father can be anyone but I takes a man to be a father. I did it on my own for the past 16 years. I am very independent. I only had help of my parents then, father still MIA (could care less thank you). And I now look after my parents as well. Because they have been supportive from day one. And I am very happy living and mingling in my single life.

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Originally posted by Barley Sliding:
[qb]i just found out not long ago that im pregnant, im currently bout 7 weeks pregnant, and today my boyfriend is hopping on a buss to mesa az.
honestly im scared. and everyones doubting me. im doubting me. i jus am scared i guess. i dont know. no one understands.[/qb]

I'm not sure if you beleive in prayers, but you can't give up on yourself, if you don't trust and beleive in youm than who will, keep your head up, and beleive that you can get through these hard times, I myself am a single mom, and is involved in a not so great relationship. You have to beleive that there is a ray of sunshine at the end on the dark tunnel.

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I AM JUST ABOUT 6 MONTHES PREGNANT AND ME AND THE BABY'S FATHER ARE NOT TOGETHER. ALL YOUR FEELING ARE SO NORMAL. I FEEL THAT WAY ALOT AND SOMETIME ALL I NEED IS SOMEONE TO JUST EXPRESS IT ALL TO SO IF YOU EVER WANT TO TALK FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME