i've reconnected with an old friend of mine from high school. nothing romantic, although he is male.

Anyways, he is going through such a rough time. And he is doing everything he should be doing, so i suppose i'm not really asking for advice as i am just sharing his story. you could pray for him or send some positive thoughts his way.

He and his ex-wife had gone through counseling and it was pretty evident that it was over. He had been offered a job in raleigh that would allow her to stay at home, but he would have to travel. both agreed he should take the job. So he goes ahead and moves and starts looking for a place to move the rest of his family, but when he returns home... she states that he has abandoned his family and wants a divorce.

She goes further to make claims that he is unfit. He has now not seen his boys in 5 weeks. She has backed out of every agreed meeting time. she is now claiming that he is a drug addict and a danger to his children. Now, he is on painkillers, but he takes less than the prescribed dosage for a herniated disk. And is no no way unfit. His court date is coming soon.

But man, i just feel horrible for him! He is obviously a good father and it seems like the mother could possibly not be fully stable to have totally convinced herself that he is a bad father, although it does not appear that she is endangering her children (other than denying them their father).


I think it especially breaks my heart to see a father trying to do the best thing, who loves his sons and wants to spend time with them... and then i deal with my ex, who would rather take a nap than play with his son... just sad all around

Wow, that is very sad. I can't imagion coming home thinking you're taking care of your family, trying to do what is best and it's all changed on you. Poor fella. I'll definatelly keep him in my thoughts. I hope it goes well for him.