Wow! Im doing ok I guess. I am from Houston, Texas where there is a preacher named Joel Osteen. You might have heard of him. He said something today that hit home. That maybe when he said "goodbye" he was doing me a favor. It was like it all clicked! I am WAY better off without him. Im not going to lie and say it doesn't still hurt when I know like tonight (new years eve) he will be with her instead of his family. But I don't necessarily miss him. Just the company of a warm body to tell you everything is ok. Keep me updated on your situation. They baby is great! Unfortunately I have to let him see him 4 times a week. I can't imagine doing it with twins. You are in my prayers!

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Originally posted by deelg:
I am now in a similar situation. I have a 3 year old and about 2 months ago found out my husband of 4 years has been in a gay relationship for a year. I am 6 months pregnant with twins (2 more boys). I found out shortly before he visited with his friend (who lives out of the country) and decided at that time that no matter what his decision, him or me, that I could never trust him again and needed a divorce. How are you doing now? It's been a few months since your original post. How are you handling things? How's the baby? Any tips for a newbee in your situation?

I TOO AM IN A SITUATION SIMILAR TO YOURS. I'M A LITTLE OLDER THEN YOU AND AM GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE.
I FEEL ALL THOSE THINGS YOU ARE FEELING. I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN. I DO THINK HE HAD A LOT OF NERVE TO FILE FOR DIVORCE ON YOU. IF HE CAN HAVE AN AFFAIR WHILE YOUR PREGNANT AND FILE FOR DIVORCE ON YOU BELIEVE ME HE IS DOING YOU A FAVOR. YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED. I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR THIS; BUT IT'S TRUE.
I'VE BEEN FEELING SCARED LIKE YOU; BUT AT THE SAME TIME PEOPLE ARE TELLING ME (MOSTLY FAMILY) THAT THINGS WILL GET BETTER. THEY CAN ONLY GET BETTER. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR HAVING A YEAR LIKE I'VE HAD. YOU'LL MAKE SOME FRIENDS AND YOU'LL SOON FORGET WHAT'S HIS NAME AND BE BUSY WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I'M NOT THERE YET EITHER; BUT BELIEVE THINGS WILL GET BETTER.