This gf of mine was with me through most of my pregnancy and has helped me out many times. That said, she has ditched out in the past and left me waiting by the phone. Last time I spoke with her was just before Christmas: she wanted me to help her put up a Christmas tree. I left a few phone messages, and dropped a couple emails but no response. But just today, two months later, I get an email saying how we're both so busy and of course I understand, so how are things.

I don't understand though. I was seriously worried something had happened to her. But she kept updating her 'status' and posting notes about other people on a social website we both frequent. But couldn't drop me a "hi, so busy, talk soon" in reply?

I'm not pinning all of my self esteem issues on her. I guess I could thank her b/c I had to trump my first thought of "I ****, it's my fault I lost a friend" which probably makes me stronger. But my life is such a rocky work in progress right now. If consistency is not possible, couldn't, at least, consideration be? Grrrr.

Oh, she's a friend, allright... a fair weather friend. You don't need those.

Real friends come to your aid in your times of need, without hesitation and without prompting.

Don't worry how many friends you have: I can't even fill up the five "my faves" on my T-Mobile cell-phone plan. But, of the friends I can count on the fingers of one hand, I know everyone "has my back".

mamagriz,

It's her loss since you would have made the time for her.

there are a lot of people out there to be friends with and I think SD has the right idea about those types of friends.

You could always demote her to online friend.