How many of us set ourselves up to feel miserable just because its the path of least resistance?

Do we stay in the familiar even if it hurts just because its too scary to move forward?

Do we sabotage the good just because we feel we don't deserve it or that its too good to be true?


Just some things running through my head tonight. I just wonder....how long it will take me to decide I deserve to be happy. What about you...

Question:
How many of us set ourselves up to feel miserable just because its the path of least resistance?

Do we stay in the familiar even if it hurts just because its too scary to move forward?

Do we sabotage the good just because we feel we don't deserve it or that its too good to be true?

Choices:
I find myself doing this all the time
No, I just haven't found anything that makes me happy yet
I'm in denial!!!!

 

I was ...for a LONG time.

I decided to change things a couple of months ago.

The things I've always done were not improving my life at all....so as I mentioned before....I started joining and attending event through meetup.com

I have something I can do several times a week. I've met some great people. And since these people see ME IRL, I'm finding I may not be such a sad sack after all.

I made a very uncomfortable change in putting myself out there to meet people...and it surely but slowly is paying off.

I am in denial and I like it that way

So what happens when you toss a good and a bad on at the same time to keep the balance?

Sorry my smart aZs is in full swing.

I think we are creatures of habit. It's easy because it worked yesterday.

I like to think when i am wanting something to change... that each day brings us new opportunity to make other choices. Painful at first however, its 2 weeks before it becomes a habit.

I think parents have it tougher since there is children that depend on our ability to provide. I was much more of a risk taker and successful when I didn't have children or when I had a supportive partner.

I have to remind myself at times, it is easier to lead in a race than to catch up and follow. So if I don't change my life it will change for me and I won't have a choice.

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Originally posted by BASICALLYAMY:

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Do we stay in the familiar even if it hurts just because its too scary to move forward?

Better the Devil you know than the Devil you don't. My mental health issues sometime cause me to try to insulate myself from other people. Caring about somebody gives them the power to hurt you. I resist meeting new people because one bad experience can tip the scales and make me either manic or depressed.

It's acutally kind of hard to explain but I feel like I'm standing in the middle of a teeter-totter and keeping it balanced straight. Toss something on either end is going to send me off balance. That's the best way I know to describe it.

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Right there with ya AMY.

Well this girl is considering taking a big leap for her well being. I'm debating moving away from here a bit getting further out into the country. Just a debate that could possibly even screw all the work I've done so far these past few months.

I could move out closer to where I grew up and be an hour closer to someone I really care about and right next door to some people I went to school with.

Or I could flat out skip town all together and relocate.

I dunno. Just seems to me, for those of you that know my history, that my family here is not much of a reason to stay in a place that I hate. I can't seem to get much help from them to get out of my house and there has got to be a place where I can find people who are more down to earth and easy to be around.

I dunno. Perhaps I'm in my 2nd or 3rd mid-life crisis like a friend of mine

I am TERRIFIED of good things because I feel like I don't deserve it. Sometimes I think if my husband couldn't love me then who will? I know that's terrible to think but I can't get it out of my head.