Hello everyone. I'm new here and would like to say hello. I didn't vote because I haven't thought about marriage because I'm too busy concentrating on getting my life together. I'm in a relationship and have been proposed to and turned him down. He stuck with me even after I said no. Maybe as I get older....I'll change my mind.

Well, while I have nothing against marriage, I doubt that I ever will again. I would like to, but I just don't think it will ever happen. I'm not sure there is a guy out there who could handle my life AND convince me to trust in the whole forever thing again. Hopefully I will be proven wrong though.

"My knight in shining armour turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil."

Well, it's been a long while since I've been on here....now, about the marriage thing....
You know, I WANT a man in my life. I want that someone who completes me, but not ready for a marriage and not sure when I will be. I BELIEVE in it.....it's just not for me, not right now.
My kids will be out of the house first. They are older teens, so I'm close ( I hope!)
But, '"Do I ever think I'll get married again"?'..........yes, I do......one day....I will.

I honestly don't think I ever will. I definitely won't rule it out, but it's just not something that I see in the cards for me.

I am just going to be a single mom forever.

Well, I feel I'll be a single dad forever at times myself. But I think we all have fears about letting other into our lives. That we won't be accepted because we aren't perfect and have too many responsibilities.

The reality may be that those people who understand we aren't perfect and that we have responsibilities are the best ones out there. Nobody is perfect after all.

I voted yes. I want to be in love and married, I want to grow old with someone by my side. I've been in love before and it's too good of a thing to give up on.

I do have a fear that whoever it is I fall in love with & marry will not love my daughter like his own. I hate that part of being a single parent... the fact that there is no one on this earth who loves your children like you do. There is no one to share them with and who would have true and genuine interest in them. They might fake it at first to get their foot in the door... okay, enough with the negative thoughts!

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Originally posted by natsmom:
They might fake it at first to get their foot in the door... okay, enough with the negative thoughts!

Real, lasting love just takes time. But I've seen enough examples of step parents becoming family in real life. Including in my own family.

hmmmmmmm.....

if the right man finally finds me and asks me?

I'm starting to believe the love I'm looking for doesn't come around very often and worth every second.

It's better to be alone than settle... when he finds me... I can't imagine my life without him.

I will never get married. All it does is get in the way. I wouldn't need a piece of paper to tell me that I love someone.

Wasn't really sure if, at this point in time, I'd be a 'yes' or a 'no'. I mean, I was never married but I always dreamed of it, this beautiful wedding where everyone who meant something in your life was there and the man at the alter was my true love but I now find it unneccesary. If I am at least lucky enough to find a gentlemen who was best for my son and I I would be happy. All marriage is really is a document. Family life and home is really what you make it. You can be just as happy, if not happier at times, than a married parent. At least, I know I keep telling myself that every morning.

So at this moment it's a maybe, I leave it up to however the puzzle pieces fall.

For the longest time I was happy alone and didn't want to get married.

Now? My son is 14 years old. I had my time alone and not so sure that I want to go through life alone. I think that I would enjoy spending my time and sharing my home with someone I love and vice versa.

I enjoy having a family life and getting together withsomeone else will only be a great addition...providing i chose the right person this time LOL

don't think i will. i like my space. if it happens then, well, great. but i don't see it happening esp. anytime soon.

I cant see myself ever getting married. I am not a pessimist, but I am 33 years old, single and have a duaghter that is nearly 4 years. I carry baggage from previous relationships that did nto work. I am afraid. I am terrified of getting hurt again. these are things that I need to work on with myself before a new relationship could ever possibly work.

That is great you are able to recognize that acesbeauty. I stayed in that frame of mind for about 7 years, for the simple reason of working out baggage from previous relationships.

I think it is all good. We are all at different stages in our lives. It is interesting to learn where each of us are at.

Thanks for the topic post.

M

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Originally posted by acesbeauties:
I cant see myself ever getting married. I am not a pessimist, but I am 33 years old, single and have a duaghter that is nearly 4 years. I carry baggage from previous relationships that did nto work. I am afraid. I am terrified of getting hurt again. these are things that I need to work on with myself before a new relationship could ever possibly work.

I don't mean to disagree with you but 33 is still quite young. Having a 4 year old daughter is a wonderful thing and is just part of life.

Emotional baggage is something else. I have plenty myself. That's an internal blockade we put upon ourselves.