Here's the situation:

Question:
What would you do?

Choices:
nothing
Drink a glass of wine and take a nap. ;)

 

Come on people!!!

Ok. Obviously this is kinda complex so let me keep it simple.


If you are truly interested in working through these things with him, do what you think is going to make you resent him the least. This could mean doing the thing that is in your best interest with visiting your family. It could be the thing that is in the best interest of the child that is going to understand more of what is going on (his son). Whatever you do you should sit down and talk to him about it and talk about how it makes you feel. Don't be confrontational.

In the end, I really don't know the answer...

So hard to pick in a no win situation. If it were me personally... I would ask someone else what to do... jk

No really... just be sure you get a reasonable amount of your own needs met. If you don't... ain't nobody gonna be happy in this. It's all about the boundaries. (Which I **** at by the way.)

Thanks for replying, Knight. Honestly, I think I'd end up resenting him equally either way. If he doesn't come here, it feels like my family and I are not important enough for him to want to spend at least ONE holiday here. If I go there, I will resent him for making us miss Easter with my family.

I definitely feel as though I am the one always trying to please him and meet his needs and wants.

Thanks again for putting your two cents in.

I still think you should be frank with him and tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesnt do something about it... I would seriously consider whether or not this man is going to be the right person for you to dedicate any more additional time and energy to.

*changing vote*

quote:

Originally posted by AKnightInTheMaking:
*changing vote*

YES! ...Off to the fridge!

Hey! Save some for me!

Oops, too late. I didn't even stay online long enough to read that. LOL!